為什么生活如此艱難(上)

Olowu Olumide Ayodeji, lives in Lagos, Nigeria
How difficult life is? If critically looked at, that's a question in the class of the likes of asking about what life is. But I don't want to go into that sole direction.
Life is what it is, because we don't have something to compare to it at its level of ideal applicable contexts. Life is simply what it is. The question could have been easily answered if we know something else that is quite analogous to life itself. OK, I don't want to go into this direction too.
Another realistic perspective… Life is actually implicitly difficult, and it has nothing to do with what we individually did, good nor bad, right nor wrong.
Focusing on humans… We are born in the form of babies that without help won't most likely make it alive further than the first few hours (or days?) after birth. That's a perspective.
Every human needs to continually renew the energy needed to stay alive. We all get hungry. For example, without having done good nor bad, right nor wrong, we wake up, after a usual night sleep, mostly feeling hungry. That's a perspective. This same hunger is mostly at the base of the reasons people try to make a living. It's also the reason some people go out of the way of the law to cause other humans unpleasant experiences in the form of armed robbery and so on.
Let no one console you that the difficulties you experience in your own life are caused by your past and current choices. Life's difficulties are not implicitly due to having been a victim of circumstances. Life is just what it is, but we should still try to make choices that are for the collective good of humanity.
IDEALLY, life cannot be said to be difficult or not. Life is simply what it is. Life wouldn't be life if it is not the way it is. We all need to eat, and that essentially and naturally involves killing another life form (even if you are a vegetarian, because plants are living things too) for food, which is the natural order, unless otherwise improvised upon, and etc.
Life is not the most comforting experience. We don't know if there is a reason for life or not. It is just what it is. My answer doesn't consider religion (because that would be bias against certain people) but common sense.
So, humanly speaking, as a particular layer of abstraction, life can be between being extremely difficult to being extremely pleasing.
Life is simply what it is. It's up to us all to make it more pleasing.

奧洛烏·奧盧米德·阿約德吉，住在尼日利亞的拉各斯。
生活有多艱難？如果用批判性的眼光來看，這就像在課堂上（老師）喜歡問生活是什么的。但我不想讓這個問題變成那種感覺。
生活就是這樣，在理想的適用環(huán)境水平上，我們沒有什么東西可以與它進行比較。生活就是這樣。如果我們知道一些與生命本身非常相似的東西，這個問題本可以很容易地得到回答。好吧，但是我不想讓問題進入到這個方向。
另一個現(xiàn)實的觀點是：生活實際上隱含著困難，（不管我們個人所做的事情是）好還是壞，對還是錯，它都與我們所做的事情無關(guān)，。
以人類為例，我們以嬰兒的形式出生，如果沒有（其他人的）幫助，我們很可能活不過出生后的最初幾個小時（或幾天？）。這是一個角度。
每個人都需要不斷更新來維持生存所需的能量。我們都會餓。例如，撇開我們做過的好事或壞事、對的事或錯的事，我們在夜晚睡著正常醒來后，大多數(shù)時候感都會到饑餓。這是一個角度。同樣的，饑餓也是人們試圖謀生的基本原因。這也是一些人不受法律約束，以持械搶劫等形式去給其他人帶來不愉快經(jīng)歷的原因。
不要讓任何人安慰你，你自己在生活中經(jīng)歷的困難是由你過去和現(xiàn)在的選擇造成的。生活中面臨困難的并不一定是環(huán)境中的受害者。生活就是這樣，但我們?nèi)詰?yīng)努力做出有利于人類集體利益的選擇。
理想情況下，生活不能說是艱難的，也不能說不是艱難的。生活就是這樣。如果生活不這樣的話，它就不會是生活。我們都需要吃飯，這就和為了食物而殺死另一種生命形式自然地牽扯到了一起（因為植物也是生物，所以即使你是素食主義者，你也符合這一點），這是自然規(guī)律，除非有一些突發(fā)狀況，等等。
生活不是最令人舒服的經(jīng)歷。我們不知道生命的存在是否有原因。事情就是這樣。我的回答沒有考慮到宗教（因為那是對某些人的偏見），而是立足于常識方面。
所以，從人的角度來說，作為一種特殊的抽象層次，生活可能介于極度困難和極度愉悅之間。
但生活就是這樣。我們大家都有責(zé)任使它更令人愉快。

Philip Terry, I enjoy solving complex problems by consistently feeding my imagination.
Bad education systems - most of what I learned at school was useless. Not enough education on practical life skills - needed everyday like finances, relationship building, health/ nutrition, negotiation, career paths etc... Instead I was fed useless information like learning latin and deconstructing atoms which has had zero value for me in the real world. On top of that my parents had to pay extortionate fees for it.
Bad government. When I see David Cameron on twitter messing around attending loads of open days and ceremonies instead of tackling real issues that impact people's lives on a day to day basis it makes me realize why life is still hard for some people...
Too many people flooding the system. In my town there is a massive shortage of housing due to the amount of immigrants pouring in. The governments answer is to keep laying down more and more concrete - 5000 new homes being built on top of the beautiful countryside in my town. They never seem to set a limit.
Inefficient transport networks and traffic systems. Too much time is spent waiting in traffic jams. I don't understand why little innovation is being made to solve this - particularly in London. It takes one slow driver to cause a knock on effect throughout the whole road network. I've seen pedestrian crossing's where one person stops literally hundreds of cars for minutes at a time stopping the flow of the entire road network. I used to spend 4 hours a day driving in heavy traffic. There must be a better more efficient way.
Parking is scarce/ cramped especially in Greater London. I've had about 5 parking tickets in the last 6 months... Many times out of frustration after spending too long searching for a space when I've had to attend important meetings.
Pollution due to greed driven car manufacturers. I've read the commentary from some Directors in these companies who still champion the use of petrol/ diesel instead of electric. That's fucking irresponsible in my opinion. My Mum suffers from asthma particularly in Summer months when pollution in London is high so I am all for electric. I'm all for backing Elon Musk's mission to make all cars electric. Sadly some people don't give a shit about other people's health - so long as they're making plenty of turnover. Elon Musk at least thinks about the greater good of humanity.

菲利普·特里，我喜歡通過不斷激發(fā)想象力來解決復(fù)雜的問題。
糟糕的教育體系——我在學(xué)校學(xué)到的大部分東西都是無用的。并沒有學(xué)到每天都需要用到的足夠的實際生活技能教育，如財務(wù)管理、關(guān)系建立、健康/營養(yǎng)知識、談判技巧、職業(yè)道路的選擇等等。相反，我被灌輸了許多無用的信息，比如學(xué)習(xí)拉丁語和解構(gòu)原子，這些在現(xiàn)實世界中對我來說毫無價值。除此之外，我父母還為此支付了高昂的費用。
糟糕的政府——當(dāng)我在推特上看到大衛(wèi)·卡梅倫在參加各種開放日和儀式，而不是處理影響人們?nèi)粘Ｉ畹膶嶋H問題時，我才意識到了為什么有些人的生活仍然很艱難。
太多人涌入我們的國家——在我們鎮(zhèn)上，由于大量移民的涌入，住房嚴(yán)重短缺。政府的答案是繼續(xù)鋪設(shè)越來越多的混凝土建筑，在我們美麗的鄉(xiāng)村城鎮(zhèn)上建造5000座新房子。他們似乎從來沒有設(shè)定過房屋建造方面的限制條件。
運輸網(wǎng)絡(luò)和交通系統(tǒng)效率低下——我在交通堵塞這個方面需要花費等待（疏通）的時間太長了。我不明白為什么在這個問題上幾乎沒有創(chuàng)新的解決辦法，特別是在倫敦。一個慢行的司機會對整個道路網(wǎng)絡(luò)產(chǎn)生連鎖反應(yīng)。我見過在人行橫道上（因為）一個人而導(dǎo)致數(shù)百輛車都被迫停下幾分鐘，阻斷了整個道路網(wǎng)絡(luò)的流動。我過去開車時，每天要在交通擁擠的地方花上4個小時。一定有更好更有效的方法來解決這個問題。
停車場很少或者說很擁擠，尤其是在大倫敦。在過去的6個月里，我收到了大約5張停車罰單。在我不得不參加重要會議的時候，我要花很長時間去找一個停車位，這讓我覺得很沮喪。
由貪婪的汽車制造商造成的污染。我讀過這些公司一些董事的評論，他們?nèi)匀恢С质褂闷?柴油而不是電力。在我看來，這太不負(fù)責(zé)任了。我媽媽患有哮喘，尤其是在夏季。因為倫敦的污染很嚴(yán)重，所以我完全支持使用電力。我完全支持埃隆·馬斯克讓所有汽車都變成電力驅(qū)動的使命?？杀氖?，有些人根本不關(guān)心別人的健康——只要他們有足夠的營業(yè)額就夠了。埃隆·馬斯克至少考慮到了人類更大的利益。

Loretta B DeLoggio, 70 years of asking why
If you think that life is difficult, and this thought isn't the result of some horrible accident or tragedy, you probably fail to understand the basic premise of life: kinetic energy.
The basic laws of physics dictate that for anything in the world to move or change, energy must be put into it in some form. In order for you to go from lying in your bed to sitting up, you must expend energy. To get dressed and move your body into the kitchen for breakfast, you must use energy. To prepare your breakfast, eat it, etc.…
Every moment of the day, your body is using energy, and the only way this can happen is if you do something to put energy into your body. Otherwise you will starve to death, or lie in one place in your own bodily wastes and die of the infections you get.
Life IS a form of work. Anytime you stop working, you start dying. Most people who think that life itself is difficult fail to understand this simple concept. You cannot sit still, watch television, and insert popcorn into mouth, without having some additional process in which you create the energy to turn on the television and move your hand; and before that to create the energy to get the money to buy the television and the popcorn. Even as an infant, you have to create the energy to scream and cry until some adult notices that you need attention.
Life is a reward earned for work – for accumulating energy. Life is only hard for people who are unwilling to accumulate energy.
Of course, there are other things that make life harder for some people than others; there are illnesses, catastrophes, forms of discrimination and violence bestowed on people sometimes for a reason and sometimes utterly randomly. Illnesses and unfair treatment don't always distribute the rewards of work equally. But the basic premise that life is the reward of work is immutable.
I find it ironic that the people who have to overcome many obstacles and invest an inordinate amount of energy in order to obtain the benefits of dinner on the table and a roof over their heads are much less often the people who complain about this being unfair. The people who think that they deserve food, shelter, clothing, and delightful entertainment simply because they exist and breathe most often think that life is unfair, simply because it requires them to do more than exist and breathe.
If this isn't the kind of unfairness of life you're talking about, perhaps you could ask a more specific question.

洛雷塔·B·德洛吉奧，70歲的人來回答這個問題。
如果你認(rèn)為生活是艱難的，而這種想法不是由某個可怕的事故或悲劇的結(jié)果造成的，那么你可能無法理解生活的基本前提：動能。
物理學(xué)的基本定律規(guī)定，世界上任何東西若要移動或改變，都必須以某種形式向其中注入能量。為了讓你從躺在床上到坐起來，你必須消耗能量。要穿好衣服，把身體挪到廚房去吃早餐，你必須消耗能量。準(zhǔn)備早餐、吃早餐等（都需要消耗能量）。
每天每時每刻，你的身體都在消耗能量，而唯一能滿足這一點的方法就是你做一些事，使你能把能量注入身體中。否則你會餓死，或者躺在自己身體的排泄物里，然后死于感染。
生活是一種工作。只要你停止工作，你就會開始走向死亡。大多數(shù)認(rèn)為生活本身很艱難的人都無法理解這個簡單的概念。你不能坐著不動，只是看著電視，然后把爆米花塞進嘴里，而不進行一些額外的過程（比如消耗一些能量去打開電視和移動你的手）；而在這之前，我們要也創(chuàng)造能量來賺錢買電視和爆米花。即使是嬰兒，你也必須創(chuàng)造尖叫和哭泣的能量，直到一些成年人注意到你需要被關(guān)注。
生命是工作的回報，是積累能量的回報。只有那些不愿積聚能量的人，生活才會艱難。
當(dāng)然，有些人的生活比其他人更艱難；有些疾病、災(zāi)難、各種形式的歧視和暴力有時是出于某種原因，有時又是完全隨機的。疾病和不公平待遇導(dǎo)致生活中并不會公平地分配工作報酬。但生活是工作的回報這一基本前提是不變的。
我覺得具有諷刺意味的是，那些不得不克服許多障礙、投入過多精力以獲得餐桌上的晚餐和有房可住的人，卻很少抱怨這是不公平的。那些僅僅因為他們存在和會呼吸就認(rèn)為他們應(yīng)該得到食物、住所、衣服和愉快的娛樂的人通常認(rèn)為生活是不公平的，正是 因為生活要求他們在滿足生存和呼吸之外做更多的事情。
如果（我說的這些）不是你正在談?wù)摰哪欠N不公平的生活，也許你可以問一個更具體的問題。

Janice Tripi
I find the more intelligent one is, the more questions one has, and the more caring one is, compassionate, the more things matter,that happen to others in society. Its impossible to be selfish.
Its a natural progression to a more complicated life. You seek more. You research more. You strive more. You help more. You involve yourself more. The less you care, the happier you'll be.
Financially, its cut throat as those with money hold on to it as if they will be buried with it, and those without struggle in ways others can't even fathom. Generally speaking of course. Its become so obvious wherever I go that there are struggling towns and cities and wealthy outskirts of millionaires and streets of mansion like abodes. Five minutes away, poverty.
There is no more middle class. Pay attention to what's going on economically, politically and in the American families.
Learn to view the bigger picture, break it down, prioritize. Choose your friends instead of falling into people. When you're feeling overwhelmed, your mind and body will automatically tune out all but what is most important. The human mind is self preserving.
Take care of yourself, seek God, journal or find joy in music, art, etc. It is imperative that you find your peaceful place. Try water. Water over rocks. The sound and smell is calming. Build a room or corner in a room with all that brings you peace, all that you love.
Make a vision board. I'm thinking of developing a class that helps people become their authentic selves, find a sense of balance and peace in chaos, and culminate the class with the development of their own vision board. What do you think of that?

珍妮絲·特里皮
我發(fā)現(xiàn)一個人越聰明，他的問題就越多，他越有愛心、越有同情心，社會上發(fā)生在別人身上的事情對他而言就更重要。所以他是不可能自私的。
這是向更復(fù)雜生活的自然過渡。你尋求得更多。你研究得更多。你就要更加努力。你幫的忙就要更多。你也會更多地參與其中。你在乎的越少，你就會越快樂。
從經(jīng)濟上來講，就像那些有錢的人緊緊地抓住了它，恨不得一起被埋葬，而那些沒有錢的人則以其他人無法理解的方式掙扎著。當(dāng)然，一般來說。無論我走到哪里，這一點都表現(xiàn)得很明顯，城鎮(zhèn)和城市中到處都是苦苦掙扎的人、百萬富翁的富裕郊區(qū)和豪宅般的街道。（而它們之間只有）五分鐘的路程，就讓我們看見了從貧窮到富裕的轉(zhuǎn)變。
不會再有中產(chǎn)階級了。去關(guān)注經(jīng)濟、政治和美國家庭中正在發(fā)生的事情。
學(xué)會從更大的角度看問題，分解問題，分清事情的輕重緩急。主動選擇你的朋友，而不要去成為別人的附庸。當(dāng)你感到不知所措時，你的思想和身體會自動忽略一切，除了最重要的東西。人類的頭腦是會自我保護的。
照顧好你自己，尋求上帝（的幫助）、寫日記或者在音樂、藝術(shù)等方面中去找到快樂。你必須找到能讓你平靜的地方。體驗下水流的感覺。水漫過巖石的聲音和氣味會讓人平靜下來。用所有能帶給你平靜的東西、所有你愛的東西去布置一個房間或者房間的一角。
做一個愿景板。我正在考慮開展一門課程，幫助人們成為真實的自我，在混亂中找到平衡與平靜的感覺，并通過開發(fā)他們自己的愿景板來達(dá)到課程的最終目的。你覺得怎么樣？
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Akshya Kumar, Constable at Delhi Police
Simply because, you are not understanding life, life is so hard because you design to make it in your way, you have prejudice for happiness such as my wife like this,job like this,friend like this,then only be happy, you have given happiness some terms and conditions,which are never going to be in your way, so, first of all erase conditions, expectations, prejudice and focus on what is your purpose of life in 70000000000000 people where do you stand,
Okay , in simple terms I would like to answer your question, you take apple eat it , do it again and again, you would found it has lost its taste and utility, why excess of everything is bad, it is a simple law, just share with others, you are on quora because your basic needs are complete and now you have full of leisure time with immense powerful brain ,living in the life of imagination of things that are never going to happen and no existential value but repeating it again and again you are causing pain to yourself,
You are a human and in broader sense you are god if you realise that because you have conscience that no other creature have, ethics is not teach to any human it is inbuilt ,everyone has a sense of good and bad, it is our ignorance that we ignore this voice so many times , ultimately we stop realizing it, we all humans have to realize that each and every creature is same,I.e energy and energy cannot be destroyed and it can only be transformed….

阿克希亞·庫馬爾，德里警察局的警官。
（你覺得生活很艱難）只是因為你不了解生活，生活之所以如此艱難，是因為你想按自己的方式生活，你對幸福有偏見，比如（抱怨）我的妻子這樣，工作這樣，朋友這樣，然后只有在你會幸福的一些條款和條件下，你才會感到幸福和快樂，這些條款和條件永遠(yuǎn)不會妨礙你（對幸福的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)評判），所以，首先，消除這些條件、期望和偏見，關(guān)注地球上70多億人的生活目標(biāo)。
好的，簡單地說，你拿著蘋果，一口又一口吃，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)它已經(jīng)失去了它的味道，為什么過多的東西是不好的，這是一個簡單的規(guī)律，只要與別人分享（你就又會嘗到它的味道了），你玩quora是因為你的基本需求已經(jīng)被滿足了，現(xiàn)在你有了充分的閑暇時間，擁有強大的大腦，生活在想象之中，想象那些永遠(yuǎn)不會發(fā)生、沒有存在價值的事情，但是因為你一次又一次重復(fù)地想象，你給自己帶來了痛苦。
你是一個人，從更廣泛的意義上說，你是上帝，你能意識到這一點，是因為你有其他生物沒有的良知，道德不是教給任何人的，它是天生的，每個人都有好與壞的感覺，是我們的無知導(dǎo)致我們多次忽視了這個聲音，最終我們會停止意識到它，我們所有人都必須認(rèn)識到每一種生物都是一樣的，即能量不能被摧毀，只能被轉(zhuǎn)化。

You want to be happy then develop a vision of your life and relate it to need of the society and work for it decode what you are doing, we are born to involve with society not to run away from it and if you want then you are going to suffer, you have to realize that you are apart of society and you are contributing something to it. Often we fear from uncertainty for future and some even fear from what after death ,to secure a place at heaven they are investing in temple and devoting , candles and shawls.
uncertainity about is reason behind insurance,banking, and capitalism.
Today social media is manifestation of selfishness for ex~how many likes on photo,people are dying because of selfies, how many comments,
This individualstic model is basic for comparison and jealous, we are considering our so much important but pleaSe know a simple thing my friend your important to no one except yourself,take it lightly,Don't set conditions for happiness ,everybody wants world in his way that is not going to happen, why don't we become what the world needs, why don't we start loving each and every one on this planet without self-interest,
If you are true devotee of God and want it live happily then work hard upon your vision and if that doesn't not goes your way then change the route.
STRUGGLE IS THE MAINFESTATION OF EGO, IT ALWAYS LOVES TO STRUGGLE AND SURVIVE,IT US THE REASON WE ARE NOT ACCEPTING THE REALITY AND STRUGGLE WITH IT WHICH CAUSES PAIN, STAY HAPPY HELPING EACH OTHER,LOOK AT THOSE WHO ARE SUCCESFULL,
IS NOT IT STRANGE,THAT WE HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH SOME ANOYMOUS PERSON COME FIRST WOULD NOT HURT US BuT OUR FRIEND DOES THE SAME HURT US. IT IS NOT NORMAL EVEN IF IT HAPPENS TO MOST OF PERSON BECAUSE IT IS NOT UNIVERSAL TO ALL, IF ALL PAITENT are I'll DOES NOT MEAN THINGS ARE NORMAL,
PLEASE BE HAPPY FOR OTHERS AND FOR YOURSELF TOO.80YEARS OF LIFE AND PLEASE INVOVLE WITH IT EACH AND EVERYTHING EXPERIENCE ALL EMOTIONS AND FORMS OF LIFE.
CHEER UP BROTHERS AND SISTERS,PLEASE……

你們想要快樂，然后你們會對自己的生活許下一個愿景，把它和社會的需要聯(lián)系起來，并為之努力工作，我們生來就要和社會打交道，而不是去逃避它，若你們想要快樂，那么你們一定將遭受痛苦，你們必須意識到你們是社會的一份子，你們正在為社會做出貢獻。我們常常會擔(dān)心未來的不確定性，有些人甚至擔(dān)心死后會發(fā)生什么，為了死后能去天堂，他們投資建造寺廟，供奉香火和袈裟。
不確定性是保險、銀行和資本主義存在的背后原因。
今天的社交媒體是自私的表現(xiàn)，比如照片有多少人點贊，有多少人因為自私而死，這些事情有多少評論，
這種個性的模式是比較和嫉妒的基礎(chǔ)，我們認(rèn)為自己非常重要，但請知道一件簡單的事情，我的朋友，你對于除了你自己以外的任何人都不重要，不要太在意這些，不要為幸福設(shè)定條件，每個人都想以自己的方式生活，但這是不可能發(fā)生的，我們?yōu)槭裁床怀蔀槭澜缢枰娜四?，為什么我們不開始愛這個星球上的每一個人，而不僅僅是關(guān)心自己的利益呢。
如果你是上帝的真正信徒，并且希望快樂地生活，那么就努力實現(xiàn)你的愿景，如果你現(xiàn)在做的事情不符合你的意愿，那么就及時改變你的路線。
奮斗是自我的主要表現(xiàn)，人們總是喜歡奮斗和生存，這就是我們不接受現(xiàn)實并與之斗爭的原因，這會導(dǎo)致痛苦，讓我們保持快樂、互相幫助，向那些成功的人看齊。
奇怪的是，我們對陌生人就不那么重要了。他們不會傷害我們，但我們的朋友有時會傷害我們。（但是）這是不正常的，即使它發(fā)生在大多數(shù)人身上，它不是普遍存在的，如果所有人都是這樣，也并不意味著這是正常的，
請為他人和自己感到快樂。80年的生命，請你一定要參與其中，每一件事都能體驗到所有情感和生命的形式。
兄弟姐妹們，加油。

Lee-Ann Knowles
Most likely, YOU find life hard because you lack specific skills to get the job done.
This sort of lack can come from a number of sources but most consistently and often, these skills are lacked because our circumstances and experiences have failed to facilitate learning opportunities for us.
For example, if your parents are people who lack skills that most would teach their children in early development stages, it is unlikely you will be naturally and spontaneously exposed to another learning dynamic for these skills later in life, unless you purposefully seek out someone (like a coach) to teach them to you.
Some examples of skills (often called 'soft skills') that you may lack, which would make life considerably harder to live (these off the top of my head - I'm sure one could add):
Empathy - the ability to imagine things from someone else's perspective and relate
Conflict management - the ability to successfully navigate conflict situations while minimising psychological and emotional fallout
Self awareness - the extent to which you are aware of your own person, needs, desires, values, expressions, body language, tone, impressions etc
Interpersonal and relational skills - the ability to connect, relate, share and collaborate with others in a harmonious and cooperative way.
Work ethic - the understanding of effort and outcomes and the relationship between the two
Grit & Tenacity - "stick-to-it-ability", determination, drive (not giving up)
Resilience - the ability to 'bounce back' or recover from trauma, emotional upheaval or attack, distress or deviation from the desired path/outcome
All of these skills (and many others) help considerably to make life 'easier to live'.
If you lack these things or others like them, please seek out a coach who can help you attain and apply them.
PS. In most cases, it's not hard to build these skills - do yourself a favour and make the effort.

李安·諾爾斯
最有可能的情況是，你發(fā)現(xiàn)生活很艱難，是因為你缺乏完成工作的某項具體技能。
這種缺乏可能有很多原因，但最常見的是，這些技能的缺乏是因為我們的環(huán)境和經(jīng)驗未能為我們提供學(xué)習(xí)的機會。
例如，如果你的父母缺乏大多數(shù)人在孩子早期發(fā)展階段會教給孩子的技能，那么你不太可能在以后的生活中自然地、自發(fā)地接觸到這些技能的其他學(xué)習(xí)動力，除非你特意去找人（比如教練）教你。
一些你可能缺乏的技能（通常稱為“軟技能”），這些技能會讓你的生活變得相當(dāng)艱難（這些我現(xiàn)在一時半會腦子里想不出來——我相信有人可以補充）：
換位思考——從他人的角度去想象事物并與之聯(lián)系的能力。
沖突管理——成功應(yīng)對沖突局勢的能力，同時最大限度地減少心理和情緒的影響。
自我意識——你對自己、自己的需求、欲望、價值觀、表情、肢體語言、語氣、印象等的了解程度。
人際交往和關(guān)系技能——以和諧合作的方式與他人聯(lián)系、分享和合作的能力。
職業(yè)道德——理解努力和結(jié)果以及兩者之間的關(guān)系。
堅韌不拔——“堅持到底的能力”、有決心、有干勁（不放棄）。
韌性——從創(chuàng)傷、情緒動蕩或攻擊、痛苦或偏離預(yù)期路徑或結(jié)果中“反彈”或恢復(fù)的能力。
所有的這些技能（以及許多其他技能）都大大有助于使你的生活變得“更容易生活”。
如果你缺少這些東西或其他類似的東西，請找一位能幫助你實現(xiàn)和應(yīng)用它們的教練。
在大多數(shù)情況下，培養(yǎng)這些技能并不難，幫自己一個忙，然后努力養(yǎng)成這些技能。