是什么讓人們發(fā)生了改變呢（下）

Rahul Gupta, MD, SPiD Combines Pvt., Ltd. (2001-present)
Well motivation is the key factor to any acheivement(s) in Life. Motivation can differ person to person. For most people it may be money (nothing wrong with that, who dosent want to be rich..?), for some its higher education, higher the qualifications, less competition in terms of jobs and financial stability is easier to acheive at younger age. The sooner we realize how to motivate ourselves better options we have in future to get settled and acheive what is planned.
For some the motivation is to setup a fully functional self employment business and excel in it. Though this type of people may not have utmost educational qualification or degrees. So many businessmen are doing really great even without college education, we have so many such entrepreneurs across the world.
Yes.! Motivation changes a person by actually running after or hard work is done by an individual to acheive better in life.

良好的動(dòng)機(jī)是生活中獲得成就的關(guān)鍵因素。動(dòng)機(jī)因人而異，但對(duì)大多數(shù)人來說，最大的動(dòng)機(jī)可能就是賺錢（但這并沒有錯(cuò)，有誰不想致富啊？），對(duì)一些人來說，學(xué)歷越高，工作競(jìng)爭(zhēng)就越小、財(cái)務(wù)就越穩(wěn)定，就越容易在年輕的時(shí)候?qū)崿F(xiàn)目標(biāo)。我們?cè)皆缫庾R(shí)到如何激勵(lì)自己，我們?cè)谖磥砭驮接懈玫臋C(jī)會(huì)，我們?cè)诋?dāng)下只需要好好的安頓下來并按照計(jì)劃實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)就行了。
對(duì)于某些人來說，他們的動(dòng)機(jī)可能就是在一個(gè)好的企業(yè)中表現(xiàn)出色。雖然這類人可能沒有接受過高等教育也沒有獲得什么學(xué)位，但是在世界各地還有很多像這樣沒有接受過大學(xué)教育的商人，他們的工作也做得特別好。
沒錯(cuò)。改變一個(gè)人最好的方式就是，找到他為什么要這么做的動(dòng)機(jī)，并讓他為此認(rèn)真地努力工作，以獲得更好的生活。

Some realize it after its too late for a job, so they follow their dreams say an art or hobby they have as a god gift and they make it thier motivation, ex. Teaching arts, music, dance, yoga classes, some even teach school students and start earing well after few tries.
If you getup in morning and have a positive thought towards life, towards your work / job and ready to do hardwork for it OR desire do better even in studies that means you are motivated, and to follow the dream people have to change their habits.
If not, we need to find something which motivates us and it should be made as a goal (Motivation) to acheive in life.
To change ourselves we do need motivation.!
Hope that somewhat answers your question.
Wish you all the best.! & be motivated always.!

有些人在工作之后才意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)，所以他們努力去追尋自己的夢(mèng)想，把自己所擁有的藝術(shù)細(xì)胞和興趣愛好當(dāng)作是上天賜給他的禮物，并將其作為自己努力的動(dòng)力，利用自己的才能去教藝術(shù)、音樂、舞蹈和瑜伽課程，有些人甚至直接去教學(xué)生，嘗試幾次之后就開始賺錢了。
如果有一天你早上起床了，發(fā)現(xiàn)你生活、工作的態(tài)度很積極，并準(zhǔn)備好為此努力工作，或者希望在學(xué)習(xí)上做得更好，這就意味著你有動(dòng)力，要去追隨自己的夢(mèng)想，這說明你已經(jīng)改變了你的習(xí)慣。
如果不是這樣的話，那我們需要找到能激勵(lì)我們的東西，并將其作為生活中的目標(biāo)（動(dòng)機(jī)）。
如果我們要改變自己，那我們確實(shí)需要?jiǎng)恿Α?br /> 希望我的這個(gè)回答能在一定程度上幫到你。
祝你一切順利，并始終充滿動(dòng)力。

Genuine Person, Student at Kalindi College, University of Delhi (2016-present)
If it does not challenge you it does not change you. See what happens with me is if I find something unsatisfactory or incomplete I search what I am puzzled about. Then cones the phase where i decide to change my perspective regarding that or not.
It is good to change for good. Change is somehow natural also. Sometimes you are so engrossed in learning or your busy schedule that other than you everyobe realise that you are changed. You were undergoing change. You have changed though but you were so busy in undergoing that that you didnt realised when does this happen. This is what affects you the most. If its positive then you are lucky.
Do not try to change yourself. Try to find yourself. You will change but for a good reason. If any change makes you away from reality then it is not good. Just learn to question dear. Question yourself ,question others .
My philosophy is very simple anything that take away your inner peace is too expensive.
And I do not afford expensive changes that deprive me of being myself.
Thankyou.

如果它無法挑戰(zhàn)你，它就不能改變你。你可以看看發(fā)生在我身上的那些事情，如果我發(fā)現(xiàn)了一些東西讓我不滿意或不完美的話，我就會(huì)去搜索那些讓我困惑的東西。然后是思考階段，在這個(gè)階段我會(huì)決定是否要改變我的觀點(diǎn)。
為了變得更好而改變是一件好事，改變也是自然而然的。有時(shí)候，當(dāng)你太專注于學(xué)習(xí)或忙碌的日程時(shí)，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)除了你以外的每個(gè)人都意識(shí)到你發(fā)生了改變。你正在悄悄的發(fā)生變化。雖然你可能已經(jīng)改變了，但由于你太忙于自己的事情，以至于你都沒有意識(shí)到這是什么時(shí)候發(fā)生的?？赡苓@個(gè)改變對(duì)你的影響很大，但如果這個(gè)改變是積極的，那么你就是一個(gè)很幸運(yùn)的人。
不要試圖改變自己，你要試著找到真正的自己?？傆幸惶欤銜?huì)因?yàn)橐粋€(gè)充分的理由去改變自己。任何讓你遠(yuǎn)離現(xiàn)實(shí)的改變，都不是好事。要學(xué)會(huì)質(zhì)疑，親愛的。要質(zhì)疑自己，質(zhì)疑他人。
我的人生哲學(xué)很簡(jiǎn)單，任何奪走你內(nèi)心平靜的東西都不是好東西。
而且我負(fù)擔(dān)不起這昂貴的改變，因?yàn)樗鼊儕Z了我做自己的權(quán)利。
謝謝。

Len Cruz, professional observer, aspiring satirist, serious humorist
People change because of two things: to experience pleasure or avoid pain.
Also, human beings evolve by being social (being accepted by society, being liked and admired, etc) and usually learn from imitation. So from birth, a person would start imitating things from his immediate environment, modeling behavior from parents and basically gathering experiences.
Now being human, it is easy to be complacent because we like to relax and be comfortable. Change is usually disruptive and a lot of the times actively avoided. A person is only motivated to want to change when something begins to have a tremendous impact on him.
Maybe he fell in love for the first time and got rejected. This would motivate him to change to experience the pleasure of attraction and to avoid the pain of rejection. Maybe he is a lazy student so his parents fawn over his intelligent brother. This would motivate him to become a skilled athlete to experience the pleasure of recognition and avoid the pain of being ignored and overshadowed.
As humans, most of our actions are motivated by being socially accepted. We want to be admired, acknowledged, approved of by everyone around us. It is what drives us to evolve and survive as a species.

人會(huì)發(fā)生變化有兩個(gè)原因：體驗(yàn)快樂或避免痛苦。
此外，人類是通過社會(huì)性（被社會(huì)接受，被喜歡和欽佩等等）進(jìn)化的，人通常是從模仿中學(xué)習(xí)新東西。所以一個(gè)人從出生開始，就會(huì)開始模仿周圍環(huán)境中的事物，模仿父母的行為，并從其中收集經(jīng)驗(yàn)。
我們現(xiàn)在作為人類，很容易自滿，因?yàn)槲覀兿矚g放松和舒適。改變通常具有破壞性，很多時(shí)候人都會(huì)主動(dòng)避免改變。一個(gè)人只有當(dāng)某件事開始對(duì)他產(chǎn)生巨大的影響時(shí)，他才會(huì)想要改變。
也許是他第一次墜入愛河卻被拒絕了。這會(huì)促使他想去改變，去體驗(yàn)被吸引的快樂，避免被拒絕的痛苦。也許他是個(gè)懶惰的學(xué)生，所以他的父母更喜歡他聰明的弟弟，這可能激勵(lì)他成為一名優(yōu)秀的人，以體驗(yàn)被認(rèn)可的快樂，避免被父母忽視，避免蒙上陰影的痛苦。
作為人類，我們的大多數(shù)行為都是被社會(huì)所接受的。我們希望被周圍的人欽佩、承認(rèn)、認(rèn)可。它是驅(qū)使我們作為一個(gè)物種進(jìn)化和生存的動(dòng)力。

Brendan O Donnell, studies Medicine & Medicine at University College Dublin (2023)
Changing oneself for others.
Each of us is constantly changing. Those of us who have an identical twin will authenticate their variation from their twin. Some proponents of genetic determinism will say that the hardware in the two individuals is the same but the the software is constantly warped by the different space and time which they occupy.
Despite the constantly changing state of our brains many ideas and beliefs become fixed as we grow. Many factors help to fix and consolidate information in our brains. These things are our early childhood experiences, parent-child relationship, sleep, education and all of the other stuff you do as an infant and later as a child.
Depending on ones environment and their genetics they will come to have ideas, attitudes and beliefs. Evolution insists that many of us will aspire to reproduce.

為別人改變自己。
我們每個(gè)人都在不斷的變化。我們中有一些同卵雙胞胎的人，會(huì)鑒定他們的變異是否來自雙胞胎。一些基因決定論的支持者會(huì)說，兩個(gè)個(gè)體的硬件是一樣的，只是軟件在不斷被他們所占據(jù)的空間和時(shí)間所改變。
盡管我們大腦的狀態(tài)在不斷的變化，但隨著我們的成長(zhǎng)，許多想法和信念會(huì)變得固定不變。許多因素有助于修復(fù)和鞏固我們大腦中的信息。這些都與我們?cè)缙诘耐杲?jīng)歷、親子關(guān)系、睡眠、教育以及所有你在嬰兒時(shí)期和后來的孩子時(shí)期所做的事情有關(guān)。
一個(gè)人所處的環(huán)境和他們的基因，決定了他們會(huì)有不同的想法，態(tài)度和信仰。進(jìn)化論認(rèn)為，我們中的許多人都渴望繁衍后代。

People will “change” to accomplish a goal. They will change improve their chances of connecting with a life partner or they will change to protect their family unit. Change is not always known to us when it is occuring. Change is usually good and healthy and is a product of small deviations in ideas leading to small attitude shift leading to changes in beliefs.
When change in belief has occurred their usually comes a point where a person behavior need to change to more accurately fit them as a person. A new relationship often causes the personal growth necessary to change. This said, sometimes a person can change in pursuit of acceptance and praise from a new friend or lover. By using the persons praise as a surrogate for measuring selfworth they can disobey their intrinsic value system. This can cause internal anguish and turmoil.
We each need to remember to ask ourselves when we are changing - Do our actions betray the type of person we want to be? More simply, is the change in good? If we like the person we are changing into we can continue and even be more deliberate in our efforts to become that person. If we do not we need to bravely push back and not be squeezed into becoming someone who we do not like.
At times we are all guilty of doing behaviors which jar with our perception of ourselves. Sometimes it takes us weeks or months or even years to see the course we are on is not good. Sometimes it is a friend or a family member who makes us aware. I think no matter how bad or rotten we may feel everyone needs to continue to reserve love for themselves. Your mam, your dad, your brother or sister, your partner or even your kids may hate you but be honest and feel inside yourself make the next changes in your life tiny, though they may be, good. Do something which makes the world a tiny bit better everyday.

人們會(huì)為了實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)而發(fā)生“改變”。當(dāng)他們想增加與生活伴侶之間的聯(lián)系時(shí)，或者當(dāng)他們想保護(hù)他們的家庭時(shí)，他們會(huì)愿意去改變。當(dāng)變化發(fā)生的時(shí)候，我們并不知道它發(fā)生了。改變通常都是好的和有益的，改變是觀念上的微小偏差導(dǎo)致態(tài)度上的微小轉(zhuǎn)變，從而導(dǎo)致信念發(fā)生改變的產(chǎn)物。
當(dāng)信念發(fā)生變化時(shí)，通常是一個(gè)人的行為需要改變。一段新關(guān)系的出現(xiàn)往往會(huì)導(dǎo)致個(gè)人在成長(zhǎng)過程中發(fā)生變化。也就是說，有時(shí)候一個(gè)人會(huì)因?yàn)樽非笮屡笥鸦蛐聬廴说慕蛹{和贊美而發(fā)生改變。用他人的贊揚(yáng)來作為衡量自我價(jià)值的替代品，可能會(huì)違背人的內(nèi)在價(jià)值體系。這可能會(huì)導(dǎo)致他們內(nèi)心充滿痛苦以及思想出現(xiàn)混亂。
當(dāng)我們改變時(shí)，我們每個(gè)人都需要問問自己——我們的行為是否背離了我們想成為的那種人？更簡(jiǎn)單地說，這種變化是好的嗎？如果我們喜歡我們正在變成的那個(gè)人，我們就可以繼續(xù)，甚至可以努力變成那個(gè)人。如果我們不喜歡，我們就需要勇敢地反擊，而不是被迫變成那個(gè)我們不喜歡的人。
有時(shí)，我們會(huì)因?yàn)樽约旱男袨榕c我們對(duì)自己的看法不一致而感到內(nèi)疚。有時(shí)，我們要花幾個(gè)星期、幾個(gè)月甚至幾年的時(shí)間才能看到我們現(xiàn)在的處境其實(shí)并不好，有時(shí)候是朋友或家庭成員讓我們意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)。我認(rèn)為不管我們現(xiàn)在的處境有多糟糕，每個(gè)人都應(yīng)該在內(nèi)心深處為自己保留一份愛意。你的媽媽，你的爸爸，你的兄弟姐妹，你的伴侶甚至你的孩子可能會(huì)討厭你，但你要在你內(nèi)心深處保留一些會(huì)讓你生命變得更好的選擇。做一些讓世界每天都變得更美好的事情。

Zeel
In this world no one wants to change until they experience some embrassement in their life or something happened to them that drastically change their way of thinking or some do or die type of situation.Let me explain you by taking an example :a student study in 10 th class uptil now he never failed in any examination though he is somewhat weak in study he managed himself to get pass in examination.One day he get failed in one of the subject in preliminary exams, this failure is breakthrough in his life.After then he study for hours and hours, he kept himself busy with books and only goal left in his life is to not only pass the examination but also with good marks.Later on his hardwork and effort works and he get passed with good percentage in 10 th class. Thus the embarrassment he experienced due to his failure will eventually leads to high level of success in his life though getting good marks in 10 th class is not a big achievement for us but for him it's a biggest achievement. As from then he never limits himself, he will give his 100 Percent to achieve anything in his life.

在這個(gè)世界上，沒有人愿意改變，除非他們?cè)谏钪薪?jīng)歷了某些難以接受的事情，或者發(fā)生了某些事情，徹底改變了他們的思維方式，或者是經(jīng)歷了某些人的生死。讓我給你舉個(gè)例子來解釋一下：一個(gè)10年級(jí)的學(xué)生，直到現(xiàn)在他都從來沒有一次考試不及格過，盡管他在學(xué)習(xí)上有些薄弱項(xiàng)，但他還是設(shè)法通過了考試。有一天他在一門課的預(yù)考中失敗了，這是他生命中第一次的失敗。之后，他每天都會(huì)連續(xù)學(xué)習(xí)好幾個(gè)小時(shí)，一直忙著看書，他人生唯一的目標(biāo)就是不僅要通過考試，還要取得好成績(jī)。他一直在努力學(xué)習(xí)，后來他以很高的成績(jī)通過了十年級(jí)的考試。因此，由于他的失敗，他所經(jīng)歷的挫折，最終會(huì)導(dǎo)致他會(huì)在將來的生活中獲得較高水平的成功。雖然獲得一個(gè)良好的成績(jī)并不是很一個(gè)大的成就，但對(duì)他來說，這就是一個(gè)最大的成就。從那時(shí)起，他就再也不會(huì)限制自己了，他會(huì)付出百分之百的努力去實(shí)現(xiàn)他生命中的所有目標(biāo)。

Elise Celli, Therapist (2020-present)
It is usually very difficult to change core personality traits or behaviors once we are adults. However, life changing experiences -good or bad- can serve as motivators to drastically change a person. For instance , if someone is attacked they may become ( understandably so) much less social and more timid. Or if a person has experienced grief they may seek solace in their religion and become very religious. In addition as we age we tend to go through phases of life that seem to naturally change what things are important to us. There is something called self-actualuzation which can occur that means that as we age we seek out the ways to become the fullest version of ourselves often in a way that not only fulfills us but that also gives back to society

一旦我們長(zhǎng)大成人了，就會(huì)很難改變我們最核心的個(gè)性特征或行為。所以，無論是好經(jīng)歷還是壞經(jīng)歷，凡是改變我們?nèi)松慕?jīng)歷都可以成為徹底改變一個(gè)人的動(dòng)力。例如，如果有人受到了攻擊，他們可能會(huì)變得（但這是可以理解的）更不合群，更膽小。或者，如果一個(gè)人經(jīng)歷了悲傷，他們可能會(huì)去宗教中尋求安慰，他們會(huì)變得非常虔誠。此外，隨著年齡的增長(zhǎng)，我們往往會(huì)經(jīng)歷生活中的各個(gè)階段，這些階段似乎會(huì)自然而然地改變那些對(duì)我們來說很重要的事情。有一種東西叫“自我價(jià)值的實(shí)現(xiàn)”，他總有一天會(huì)實(shí)現(xiàn)自己價(jià)值的，這意味著我們隨著年齡的增長(zhǎng)，會(huì)尋找各種方法來充實(shí)自己，讓自己變得更完美，這種方式不僅能滿足我們自己，還能回饋社會(huì)。

Liviani Perlita, former Owner at Kids Clothes
Something happened in their life and its totally changed their life upside down (in both between really good thing or bad thing)
Because a personality doesn’t easily changes.
Example:
Maybe you have friend or close people in your life that have a bad habit, you always tell him or her to change that bad habit like over and over again. But you must be know he or she is never change.
Or you can take your self as example. Do you ever change your character since you as a little kid?
If you like flowers you will be like it or the rest of your life, except something happen to you that really hurt your deep heart like some traumatic.

在他們的生活中發(fā)生了一些事情，這些事情徹底改變了他們的生活（不管是好事還是壞事）。因?yàn)橐粋€(gè)人的性格是不會(huì)輕易改變的。
例如：也許你生活中有一些朋友或親近的人，他們有一些壞習(xí)慣，你總是一遍又一遍地告訴他或她要改掉那個(gè)壞習(xí)慣。但你要做好心理準(zhǔn)備，他或她可能永遠(yuǎn)都不會(huì)改變。
或者你可以以自己為例。你從小就沒有改變過自己的性格嗎？
如果你喜歡花，你就會(huì)很喜歡它，甚至你的余生都會(huì)喜歡花，除非一些發(fā)生在你身上的事情，真正的傷害到你的內(nèi)心深處，你才可能會(huì)有所改變。

Margaret Weiss, a social animal
This is a broad question with no details.
I will answer this based on a fundamental level as well.
In my experience, people can change only if something that resonates with the person is found.
It can be a word, a phrase, an event, a person, a visual, a sound, a taste, or anything else that strikes a chord within that person, and brings about the change.
This external "something" (anything) can be found either by chance, though things do happen for a reason, or on purpose.

這是一個(gè)沒有細(xì)節(jié)的籠統(tǒng)的問題。
我也會(huì)基于這個(gè)基本層面來回答這個(gè)問題。
根據(jù)我的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，人們只有在找到能與自己產(chǎn)生共鳴的東西時(shí)才會(huì)發(fā)生改變。
它可以是一個(gè)詞，一個(gè)短語，一個(gè)事件，一個(gè)人，一個(gè)視覺，一個(gè)聲音，一個(gè)味道，或任何一個(gè)能觸動(dòng)那個(gè)人的心弦并使其發(fā)生改變的東西。
這個(gè)外在的“東西”（可以是任何東西）可能是偶然發(fā)現(xiàn)的，盡管事情的發(fā)生一般都是有原因的，或者是有目的的。

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Different triggers for different people initiates a change in the person!
Change either boosts the Ego-self leading to a more negative attitude in the person than what he or she was yesterday while a positive change helps the person to shed his Ego -layer and slowly leads him to his core loving self! This is a change that we should ideally seek everyday in us to evolve in our journey!
We tend to associate our happiness to certain things, people and situations in life. Any change in any of these aspects can trigger the change in our life !

不同的人會(huì)有不同的觸發(fā)點(diǎn)，不同的觸發(fā)點(diǎn)會(huì)導(dǎo)致人發(fā)生不同的改變。
有的改變會(huì)讓自己變強(qiáng)，但有的改變會(huì)讓一個(gè)人比昨天更消沉，而一個(gè)積極的改變都會(huì)幫助這個(gè)人擺脫自我，并慢慢的引導(dǎo)他們走向更好的自己！在理想的情況下，我們應(yīng)該每天都尋求這種變化，以尋求在我們?nèi)松穆贸讨胁粩嗟倪M(jìn)步！
我們傾向于將我們的幸福與生活中的某些事情，人和情況聯(lián)系起來。這些東西的任何改變都會(huì)導(dǎo)致我們的生活發(fā)生變化！
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Akhil Ranjan, lives in Visakhapatnam, Andhra Pradesh, India
I think it's learning habit of our brain and you already know it is limitless. People learn every second,hour,day,week,month,year and it is totally a continuous process. Suppose a person just came out of their house and going to market,in the course of that small journey too he will observe many things ,some positive and negative both and this is subjective,like maybe he was moved with the kindness of vegetable vendors, it may be possible that he sees some wrong malpractices being done by some groceries just to get some extra income. All of those scenario instigates the person mind .So person's mind meet with dynamic environment and some how that very environment has capacity to transform the person's mind.

我認(rèn)為這是我們大腦的學(xué)習(xí)習(xí)慣，我相信你已經(jīng)知道大腦是無限的了。
人們?cè)谏械拿恳幻?、每一小時(shí)、每一天、每一周、每一個(gè)月、每一年都在學(xué)習(xí)，這是一個(gè)連續(xù)不斷的過程。假設(shè)一個(gè)人剛從家里出來準(zhǔn)備去市場(chǎng)，在這個(gè)小小的旅程中他可能就會(huì)觀察到很多東西，有積極的東西，也有消極的東西，當(dāng)然這是主觀的部分。比如他可能被賣蔬菜的小販的善良給感動(dòng)了，他也有可能看到一些食品雜貨商為了獲得一些額外的收入而做了一些錯(cuò)誤的事情。所有的這些場(chǎng)景都可能會(huì)激發(fā)了人的思考，所以人的思想會(huì)與動(dòng)態(tài)的環(huán)境相適應(yīng)，在某種程度上，這種環(huán)境有可能會(huì)改變?nèi)说乃枷搿?/b>