孤獨

Loneliness

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每個人都會時不時地感到孤獨，當我們吃午餐沒有人坐在旁邊，當我們搬到一個新的城市，或者當周末沒人有時間陪我們時候。

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Loneliness

孤獨

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But over the last few decades,this occasional feeling has become chronic for millions.In the UK, 60% of 18 to 34 year old say they often feel lonely.In the US, 46% of the entire population feel lonely regularly.We are living in the most connected time in human history,and yet, an unprecedented number of us feel isolated.

?但是在過去的幾十年里，這種偶而出現(xiàn)的感覺已經(jīng)成為數(shù)百萬人的慢性疾病。在英國，60%的18至34歲的人說他們經(jīng)常感到孤獨。在美國，46%的人經(jīng)常感到孤獨。我們生活在人類歷史上聯(lián)系最緊密的時代，然而，感到孤獨的人卻前所未有地多。

Being lonely and being alone are not the same thing.You can be filled by bliss by yourself, and hate every second surrounded by friends.Loneliness is a purely subjective, individual experience.If you feel lonely,you are lonely.

孤獨和獨處不是一回事。獨處是你可以被自己的幸福填滿，討厭被朋友包圍的每一秒。而孤獨是一種純粹主觀的、個人的體驗，如果你感到孤獨，你就是孤獨的。

A common stereotype is that loneliness only happens to people who don't know how to talk to people,or how to behave around others.But population-based studies have shown that social skills make practically no difference for adults when it comes to social connections.Loneliness can affect everybody.

一個普遍的刻板印象是，孤獨只會發(fā)生在那些不知道如何與人交談或如何與他人相處的人身上。但基于人口的研究表明，在社交關(guān)系方面，社交技能對成年人幾乎沒有影響，孤獨會影響每個人。

Money, fame,power, beauty,social skills, a great personality—nothing can protect you against loneliness,because it's part of your biology.Loneliness is a bodily function, like hunger.Hunger make you pay attention to your physical needs;loneliness makes you pay attention to your social needs.

金錢、名譽、權(quán)力、美貌、社交技巧、好的性格——沒有什么能保護你免受孤獨，因為它是你生理的一部分。孤獨是一種身體機能，就像饑餓一樣。饑餓使你關(guān)注你的身體需求；孤獨使你關(guān)注你的社交需求。

Your body cares about your social needs,because millions of years ago,it was a great indicator of how likely you were to survive.Natural sextion rewarded our ancestors for collaboration,and for forming connections with each other.Our brains grew and became more and more fine-tuned to recognize what others thought and felt, and to form and sustain social bonds.

你的身體在乎你的社交需求，因為數(shù)百萬年前，社交是你生存可能性的顯著指標。自然選擇由于祖先們的合作以及相互建立聯(lián)系而給予他們獎勵。我們的大腦成長并在識別他人的想法和感受中變得越來越細微，然后形成和維持了社會紐帶。

Being social became part of our biology。You were born into groups of 50 to 150 people,which you usually stayed with for the rest of your life.Getting enough calories, staying safe and warm,or caring for offspring was practically impossible alone.Being together meant survival,being alone meant death.

社交成為我們生理的一部分。你出生在有著50 到 150 人的群體中，通常你的余生都會和他們在一起。攝入足夠的卡路里，保持安全和溫暖，或者說獨自照顧后代幾乎是不可能的。在一起意味著生存，孤獨意味著死亡。

So it was crucial that you got along with others.For you ancestors, the most dangerous threat to survival was not being eaten by a lion,but not getting the social vibe of your group and being excluded.To avoid that, your body came up with "social pain".

所以和別人相處很重要。對你們祖先來說，生存的最大威脅不是被獅子吃掉，而是沒有感受到你們?nèi)后w的社會氛圍并且被排斥。為了避免這種情況，你的身體出現(xiàn)了“社會性疼痛”。

Pain of this kind is is an evolutionary adaptation to rejection.A sort of early warning system to make sure you stop behaviour that would isolate you.Your ancestors who experienced rejection as more painful were more likely to change their behaviour when they got rejected,and thus stayed in the tribe, while those who did not got kicked out and most likely died.

這種疼痛是對拒絕的進化適應(yīng)。它是一種預(yù)警系統(tǒng)，可確保你停止孤立自己的行為。當你的祖先被拒絕時，那些經(jīng)歷了更痛苦拒絕的人更有可能改變他們的行為，從而留在部落中，而那些沒有被踢出去的人更有可能會死亡。

That's why rejections hurt,and even more so, why loneliness is so painful.These mechanisms for keeping us connected worked great for most of our history,until humans began building a new world for themselves

這就是為什們拒絕會讓人受傷，更重要的是，這也是為什么孤獨會如此痛苦。這些讓我們保持聯(lián)系的機制在我們歷史的大部分時間里都發(fā)揮了重要作用，直到人類開始為自己建立一個新世界

The loneliness epidemic we see today really only started in the late Renaissance.Western culture began to focus on the individual.Intellectuals moved away from the collectivism of the Middle Ages,while the young Protestant theology stressed individual responsibility.This trend accelerated during the Industrial Revolution.People left their villages and fields to enter factories.Communities that had existed for hundreds of years began to dissolve,while cities grew.

我們今天看到的孤獨流行病真正開始于文藝復(fù)興后期。西方文化開始關(guān)注個人。知識分子遠離了中世紀的集體主義，而年輕的新教神學強調(diào)個人責任。這種趨勢在工業(yè)革命期間加速。人們離開他們的村莊和田地進入工廠。存在數(shù)百年的社區(qū)開始瓦解，而城市則在發(fā)展。

As our world rapidly became modern,this trend sped up more and more.Today, we move vast distances for new jobs,love, and education,and leave our social net behind.We meet fewer people in person,and we meet them less often than in the past.

隨著我們的世界迅速變得現(xiàn)代化，這種趨勢越來越快。今天，我們?yōu)榱诵碌墓ぷ鳌矍楹徒逃h走他鄉(xiāng)，把我們的社交網(wǎng)絡(luò)拋在腦后。我們親自見面的人越來越少，見面的次數(shù)與過去相比也越來越低。

Most people stumble into chronic loneliness by accident.You reach adulthood and become busy with work,university,romance, kids,and Netflix.There's just not enough time.The most convenient and easy thing to sacrifice is time with friends.Until you wake up one day and you realise that you feel isolated,that you yearn for close relationships.But it's hard to find close relationships as adults,and so, loneliness can become chronic.

大多數(shù)人無意中陷入長期孤獨。你成年后會忙于工作、大學、愛情、孩子和網(wǎng)飛。僅僅是沒有足夠的時間。最方便也最容易犧牲的就是和朋友在一起的時間。直到有一天你醒來，你意識到你感受到了孤獨，你渴望親密的關(guān)系。但是成年后很難找到親密的關(guān)系，因此，孤獨會變成長期的。

While humans feel pretty great about things like iPhones and spaceships,our bodies and minds are fundamentally the same they were 50,000 years ago。We are still biologically fine-tuned to being with each other.large scale studies have shown that the stress that comes from chronic loneliness is among the most unhealthy things we can experience as humans。

雖然人類對 iPhone 和宇宙飛船之類的東西感覺很好，但我們的身體和意識從根本上與 50,000 年前是一樣的。我們?nèi)匀辉谏飳W上適應(yīng)彼此的相處。大規(guī)模研究表明，長期孤獨帶來的壓力是人類所能經(jīng)歷的最不健康的事情之一。

it makes you age quicker ，it makes cancer deadlier，Alzheimer's advance faster，your immune systems weaker，loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of ciggarettes a day。the most dangerous thing about it is that once it becomes chronic it can become self sustaining physical and social pain ，use common mechanisms in your brain both feel like a threat and so social pain leads to immediate and defensive behaviour

它使你衰老得更快，使癌癥更致命，使阿爾茨海默病的發(fā)展更快，使你的免疫系統(tǒng)更弱，孤獨的致命性是肥胖和每天抽一包煙致命性的兩倍。最危險的是，一旦它變成慢性疾病，它可以成為自我維持的身體和社交痛苦，大腦使用常見的機制都感覺像是一種威脅，因此社交痛苦會導致直接和防御性行為

when it's inflicted on you,when loneliness becomes chronic,your brain goes into self preservation mode，it starts to see danger and hostility everywhere，but that's not all .some studies found that when you're lonely your brain is much more receptive and alx to social signals，while at the same time it gets worse at interpreting them correctly .you pay more attention to others but you understand them less, the part of you brain that recognises faces get out of tune and becomes more likely to categorise neutral faces as hostile

當孤獨出現(xiàn)在你身上時，當孤獨變成慢性時，你的大腦進入自我保護模式，它開始看到危險和敵意無處不在，但這還不是全部。一些研究發(fā)現(xiàn)，當你感到孤獨時，你的大腦更容易感受和警覺社交信號，而與此同時，正確解讀的能力也變得越來越差。你會對別人有更多的關(guān)注，但對他們的理解卻更少，你大腦中識別面孔的部分會失調(diào)，更有可能將中性面孔歸類為敵對面孔

which makes it distrustful of others,loneliness make you assume the worst about others intentions towards you，because of this perceived hostile world，you can become more self-centred to protect yourself which can make you appear more cold unfriendly and socially awkward than you really are,if loneliness has become a strong presence in your life,the first thing you can do is to try to recognise vicious cycle you may be trapped in

這使你的大腦不信任他人，孤獨會讓你認為別人對你的意圖是最壞的，因為這個充滿敵意的世界，你會變得更加以自我為中心來保護自己，這會讓你表現(xiàn)得比真實的你更冷漠，不友好和不善社交，如果孤獨已經(jīng)成為你生活中的一種強烈存在，你能做的第一件事就是試著認識到你可能陷入的惡性循環(huán)
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it usually goes something like this，an initial feeling of isolation leads to feelings of tension and sadness which makes you focus you attention sextively on negative interactions with others ,this makes your thoughts about yourself and others more negative which then changes your behaviour

它通常是這樣的，最初的孤獨感會導致緊張和悲傷的感覺，這讓你有選擇地將注意力集中在與他人的消極互動上，這會讓你對自己和他人的想法更加消極，進而改變你的行為
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you begin to avoid social interaction which leads to more feelings of isolation，this cycle becomes more severe and harder to escape each time.loneliness make you sit far away from others in class，not answer the phone when friends call，decline invitations until the invitations stop，each and every one of us has a story about ourselves and if your story becomes that people exclude you ，others pick up on that and so the outside world can become the way you feel about it

你開始避免社交互動，這會導致更多的孤獨感，每一次的這種循環(huán)都變得更加嚴重和難以擺脫。孤獨讓你在課堂上遠離他人而坐，朋友來電時不接電話，拒絕邀請直到邀請停止，我們每個人都有一個關(guān)于自己的故事，如果你的故事變成人們排斥你，其他人就會感受到這一點，這樣的話外面世界就會變成你對它的感覺

this is often a slow creeping process that takes years and can end in depression，and a mental state that can prevent connections even if you yearn for them.the first thing you can do to escape it is to accept that loneliness is a totally normal feeling and nothing to be ashamed of.

這通常是一個緩慢發(fā)生的過程，需要數(shù)年時間并可能以抑郁告終，這種精神狀態(tài)會阻止你和他人聯(lián)系，即使你很渴望。你可以擺脫它的第一件事就是接受孤獨是一種完全正常的感覺并且沒有什么可羞恥的。

literally everybody feels lonely at some point in their life ，its a universal human experience，you can't eliminate or ignore a feeling until it goes away magically but you can accept that

從字面上看，每個人都會在他們生命中的某個時刻感到孤獨，這是一種普遍的人類經(jīng)歷，你無法消除或忽視這種感覺，直到它神奇地消失，但你可以接受這一點

you can self examine what you focus your attention on and check if you are sextively focusing on negative things ，was this interaction with a colleague rarely negative or was it really mutual or even positive ，what was the actual content of an interaction?what did the other person say? did they say something bad or did you add extra meaning to their words

你可以自我檢查你關(guān)注的焦點，并檢查你是否有選擇地關(guān)注消極的事情，與同事的這種互動很少是消極的，還是真的是相互的，甚至是積極的，互動的實際內(nèi)容是什么？對方說了什么？他們是說了什么不好的話，還是你給他們的話增加了額外的意義

maybe another person was not really reacting negatively but just short on time ，then there are your thoughts about the world ，are you assuming the worst about others intentions，do you enter a social situation and have already decided how it will go? do you assume others don't want you around?are you trying to avoid being hurt and not risking opening up and if so can you try to give others the benefit of the doubt can you just assume that they're not against you

也許另一個人并沒有真正做出消極反應(yīng)，只是時間不夠，那么就有了你對這個世界的看法，你是否對他人的意圖做出了最壞的假設(shè)，你是否進入了一個社交場合并已經(jīng)決定了它將如何發(fā)展？你是否假設(shè)其他人不希望你在身邊？你是否在努力避免受到傷害而不是冒險敞開心扉？如果是這樣，你是否可以嘗試讓別人從懷疑中受益？也可以假設(shè)他們并不反對你嗎？

can you risk being open and vulnerable again?and lastly your behaviour，are you avoiding opportunities to be around others，are you looking of oppertunites to decline invitations or are you pushing away others preemptively to protect yourself，are you acting as if you are getting attacked，are you really looking for new connections or have you become complacent with your situation，of course every person in each situation is unique and different and just in introspection alone might not be enough

你會不會再次變得開朗和脆弱？最后一點，你的行為，你是否在回避與他人相處的機會，你是否在尋找機會拒絕邀請，或者你是否在先發(fā)制人地推開他人以保護自己，你是否表現(xiàn)得好像受到了攻擊，你是否真的在尋找新的關(guān)系，或者你是否對自己的處境感到滿意，當然，每個人在每種處境下都是獨一無二的、特別的，僅僅內(nèi)省是不夠的

if you feel unable to solve your situation alone by yourself，please try to reach out and get professional help.its not a sign of weakness but of courage，however we look at loneliness as a purely individual problem that needs solving to create happiness or as a public health crisis.it is something that deserves more attention .humans have build a world that is nothing short of amazing and yet not of the shiny things we have made is able to satisfy or substitute.

如果你覺得自己無法獨自解決問題，請嘗試尋求專業(yè)的幫助。這不是軟弱的表現(xiàn)，而是勇敢，我們將孤獨視為一個純粹的個人問題，需要解決才能創(chuàng)造幸福，或作為一場公共健康危機，這是值得有更多關(guān)注的事情。人類已經(jīng)建立了一個令人驚嘆的世界，然而我們制作的閃亮的東西中沒有一個能夠滿足或替代。

our fundamental and biological need for connection，most animals get what they need from their physical sourroundings，we get what we need from each other and we need to build our artificial human world.based on that，lets try something together lets reach out to someone today

我們對聯(lián)系有基本的和生理的需求，大多數(shù)動物從現(xiàn)實的環(huán)境中得到它們需要的東西，我們從彼此那里得到我們需要的東西，我們需要建立我們的人工世界?；诖?，讓我們一起嘗試一些東西，做到今天出去接觸一些人。

regardless if you feel a little bit lonely or want to make someone else day better，maybe write a friend you haven't spoken to in a while， call a family member who has become estranged， invite a work buddy for a coffee or just go to something you are usually to afraid to go to or too lazy to go to like go to a sports club

不管你是否感到有點孤獨或想讓別人過得更好，也許給你有一段時間沒有聯(lián)系過的朋友寫信，給一個疏遠的家人打電話，邀請一個工作伙伴喝杯咖啡或者只是出去做些你通常害怕去做或懶得去做的事情，像去一個運動俱樂部
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everybody is different so you know whats good for you，maybe nothing will come of it and that's okay，don't do this with any expectations，the goal is just to open up a bit，to exercise your connection muscles so that they can grow stronger over time or to help others exercise them。

每個人都是不同的，所以你知道什么對你有好處，也許不會有什么結(jié)果，沒關(guān)系，不要抱有任何期望，目標只是放開一點，鍛煉你與別人聯(lián)系的肌肉，這樣它們隨著時間的推移成長得更強大或者只是幫助其他人去鍛煉它們。

"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone."

“我曾經(jīng)認為人生最糟糕的事情就是孤獨終老。不是的。生命中最糟糕的事情就是和那些讓你感到孤獨的人在一起?！?/b>

This video kind of made me realize that loneliness is part of the reason I overshare so much. I lack social interaction so much that when I finally get it I overshare like crazy and scare off new people.

這段視頻讓我意識到孤獨是我過度分享的部分原因。我非常缺乏社交互動，以至于當我最終得到它時，我會瘋狂地分享，然后會嚇跑新朋友。

The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody and you end up talking to yourself

孤獨最糟糕的部分是當你看了一部電影，想和某人分享你的觀點，但卻沒有人，最終你只能自言自語

At this point I don’t know if I’m depressed, I have chronic anxiety or I’m just lonely…. I can’t even stay alone at home anymore and I was alone almost my whole life

此時我不知道自己是否是抑郁了，我有長期焦慮或者僅僅是孤獨。我甚至不能一個人呆在家里，我?guī)缀跻惠呑佣际且粋€人

The sad part is when I encounter with people, they make me feel even more lonely

可悲的是，當我遇到別人時，他們讓我感到更加孤獨
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Honestly, since the pandemic started, I feel like I'm slowly transforming into an introvert. Not like it's a really bad thing, but I used to be an extrovert and I enjoy people's company.

老實說，自從大流行病以來，我覺得自己正在慢慢轉(zhuǎn)變成一個內(nèi)向的人。不是說這真的是一件壞事，但我曾經(jīng)是一個外向的人，我喜歡人們的陪伴。

I think the reason I have such a hard time talking to people is that I just don't really understand them ，bcause my outlook and ideals almost never match up, and I have such a cynical view of this world that I just immediately assume the worst of someone if even the slightest negative thing happens.

我認為我很難與人交談的原因是不能真正理解他們，因為我的觀點和理想幾乎永遠不會匹配，我對這個世界有一種憤世嫉俗的看法，以至于如果有最輕微的負面事情發(fā)生，我都會立即對某人做出最壞的假設(shè)。
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It's like the video said, it's a spiral of really wanting to talk/be with someone, but you just either can't even attempt because you feel like you know how it's gonna end, or once it's over you assume the worst and start reducing/cutting contact.

就像視頻里說的，這是一個真正想和某人交談或在一起的螺旋，你要么甚至不敢去嘗試，因為你覺得你知道它會如何結(jié)束，要么一旦結(jié)束，你就做最壞的打算，開始減少或切斷聯(lián)系。

"I think my biggest problem is that I love being alone but I hate being lonely."

“我認為我最大的問題是，我喜歡獨處，但我討厭孤獨?！?/b>

I've watched this video several times during this year, and it brings me comfort knowing that loneliness is part of who we are and that there are ways to overcome it.

在這一年里，我看了好幾次這段視頻，知道孤獨是我們的一部分，知道有辦法克服它，這讓我感到安慰。

I'm at the point where I'm so lonely that I spend a majority of my days fantasizing about my ideal friendships and romantic partner.

我正處于如此孤獨的時刻，以至于我大部分時間都在幻想我理想中的友誼和浪漫的伴侶。
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The part about our brain evolving towards the social pain was really interesting. I never saw it as an evolutionary reason. That's so cool

我們大腦向社會性痛苦進化的那部分真的很有趣。我從沒把它視為進化的原因。太酷了
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That's why I'm always nice and helpful to strangers. You never know if you're their match to light up their inner fire (again). You might be giving them hope in their darkest hours. Or even just a smile on a bad day. We all need these moments.

這就是為什么我對陌生人總是很好，樂于助人。你永遠不知道是否你是點燃他們內(nèi)心火焰的人，你可能在他們最黑暗的時刻給了他們希望，甚至在糟糕的一天只是一個微笑，我們都需要這些時刻。
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I can't thank you enough for this video. I have fighting these days with my feelings and this helped me a lot

對于這個視頻，我感激不盡。這些天我一直在和自己的情感做斗爭，這對我?guī)椭艽?/b>

This really hit home. Nearly had a breakdown at work the other day when I realized I no longer speak with my old social circles and how lonely I suddenly felt at the realization

這確實直擊要害。前幾天我差點在工作中崩潰，當我意識到我不再和以前的社交圈說話時，那一刻我突然感到多么地孤獨

This was both enlightening and depressing to watch, like staring into a mirror and not being able to see myself looking back...

這看起來既有啟發(fā)性又令人沮喪，就像盯著鏡子看，卻看不到自己回頭...

Hey since we all feel lonely, I want you to know through reading this, even though chances are I dont know you, that we are together in being lonely and I know you can make it through this

嘿，既然我們都感到孤獨，我想讓你通過閱讀這篇文章知道，即使我可能不認識你，我們于孤獨中在一起，我知道你能熬過這一切

The worst loneliness isn't being alone, it's being alone surrounded by the people who don't care.

最糟糕的孤獨不是一個人，而是一個人被不在乎你的人包圍。

I remember watching this when it first came out. So much shit has happened since then, but at the same time, I’m still here – I haven’t lost to the world yet. That makes me feel proud

我記得視頻剛出來的時候就看過這個。從那以后發(fā)生了很多糟糕的事情，但與此同時，我還在這里—我還沒有輸給這個世界。這讓我感到自豪

I'm surprised by how many people are in the same boat as me. I've felt lonely for years now, and what made me feel lonelier was that I thought I was alone in my loneliness. We can all come back from this guys. 1 year from now, I'll look back on myself and say that version of me is of the past, and I wish everyone else the best in overcoming it.

我很驚訝有這么多人和我在同一條船上。我現(xiàn)在已經(jīng)感到孤獨很多年了，讓我感到更孤獨的是，我認為在我的孤獨中我是孤獨的。我們都可以從孤獨那里回來。1年后，我會回顧自己，說那個版本的我已經(jīng)成為過去，我希望其他人都能很好地克服它。

The worst thing is going from feeling extremely lonely, to extremely fulfilled, then lonely again

最糟糕的事情是從感到極度孤獨，到極度滿足，再到再次孤獨
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As someone addicted to loneliness for too long, I feel perfectly fine when ignored. The problems come when I try to open up step by step, as said in the video. I can't just suddenly change, so the interaction I give is still very little. Normal people cannot understand that, it pissed them off. So the result of my effort is just hurting people I care about, and make them want to push me away, like before.

作為一個陷入孤獨太久的人，被忽視的時候我感覺完全沒問題。問題出現(xiàn)在我嘗試一步一步打開心扉的時候，就像視頻里說的那樣。我不能是突然地改變，因此我給出的互動還是很少，正常人無法理解，這讓他們很生氣。所以我努力的結(jié)果只是傷害了我在乎的人，讓他們想把我推開，就像以前一樣。

I have been a lonely person since school, I've always been the one that no one cares about but I cared about others, and I got to the point loneliness it's not a problem anymore, it is part of my essence.

我從上學開始就是一個孤獨的人，我一直是那個沒人關(guān)心但我會關(guān)心別人的人，我到了那種孤獨不再是問題的地步，它是我本質(zhì)的一部分。

A few years I started working on always accepting invitations from friends for socializing or to help them, unless I truly wasn't able to. I never made the connection that decision could have played a factor in the improvement of my mental health

幾年后，我開始努力接受朋友的社交邀請或幫助他們，除非我真的做不到。我從來沒有想過建立與他人聯(lián)系的決定會對我的心理健康有所改善

I know that I will be lonely my whole life. I'm in the middle of high school right now. It's a tough school, and my parents want me to achieve high and do well academically. I don't have a problem with that. But my problem is that it's so hard to make friends.

我知道我會孤獨一生。我現(xiàn)在正在讀高中，這是一所管理嚴格的學校，我的父母希望我取得好成績，學業(yè)優(yōu)秀。我對此沒意見。但我的問題是交朋友太難了。

Being in school literally throws you into a building with 100+ people that are your age and probably have very similar interests. But I still can't make friends. And that is why I'm worried about when I become an adult, where it will be even harder to make friends.

在學校里，你會被扔進一棟有100多人的大樓，這些人和你同齡，可能有非常相似的興趣。但是我還是交不到朋友。這就是為什么我擔心當我成年后，交朋友會變得更加困難。

I didn't realize a lot of people could relate to this. so to everyone, please never lose hope. happiness may seem very distant, but it will come to you someday. you are a beautiful soul and you deserve it

我沒意識到很多人會對此感興趣。所以對每個人，請永遠不要失去希望。幸?？雌饋砗苓b遠，但總有一天會降臨到你身上。你是一個美麗的靈魂，你值得擁有它

If you take a broad view from where you go through this all， and in the end it make sense ，because this was needed to be part of life and you've learned a lot of things from it， hope you bounce back stronger!!

如果你從一個廣闊的視角來看待你所經(jīng)歷的這一切，最終這是有意義的，因為這是生活的一部分，你從中學到了很多東西，希望你能更堅強地恢復(fù)！！

01) in a friend get together all of your friends talking about a massive story they only experienced which you never heard of, all you can do is smile when they laugh and listen like you are not a part of the crew.
02) When your school teacher say "pick up a friend and do this assignment" and you see all your friends has already taken a partner and nobody in your class approach to you and say " can you be my partner". All you can do is approach someone and ask to be your partner with an idle student.
03) When nobody wishes you or surprise you on your birthday.
04) When you see an empty desk right next to your friend and when you try to sit your friend say "this table is reserved to that guy"
05) When all of your friends sits on the dinner table and there is no enough chairs so you need to sit on a different table alone.

01)在朋友聚會中，你所有的朋友都在談?wù)撘粋€只有他們經(jīng)歷過的、而你從未聽說過的宏大故事，你所能做的就是在他們笑的時候微笑并且聽著，就像你不是聚會中的一員一樣。
02)當你的學校老師說“選擇一個朋友一起做這個作業(yè)”，你看到所有你的朋友都已經(jīng)選擇了一個伙伴，而你班上沒有人走近你說“你能做我的伙伴嗎”。你所能做的就是接近某人，要求一個沒人選擇的學生成為搭檔。
03)當沒有人祝你生日快樂或給你驚喜的時候。
04)當你看到你的朋友旁邊有一張空桌子，當你試著坐下時，你的朋友說“這張桌子是留給那個人的”
05)當你所有的朋友都坐在餐桌上，沒有足夠的椅子，所以你需要獨自坐在不同的桌子上。

Thank you for this video. I didn't have anyone I felt like I could trust when I was young. I think it fundamentally came from my parents who were always happy to criticize and make me feel bad, just so they didn't feel quite so bad about themselves. That mistrust of people in general carried through into adulthood, I was unable to open myself to people which led to loneliness and the stress that comes with it.

謝謝你的這個視頻。我年輕時沒有一個我覺得可以信任的人。我認為這從根本上來自我的父母，他們總是樂意批評我，讓我感到難過，只是為了讓他們不覺得自己很糟糕。對人的不信任一直延續(xù)到成年，我無法向人敞開心扉，這導致了孤獨和隨之而來的壓力。
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In recent years I have opened up more and started to take chances with people that I meet and it has been progressively getting better, though there has been a bit of back-sliding. 2 steps forward, 1 step backward.

最近幾年，我變得更加開放，開始和我遇到的人一起冒險，情況越來越好，盡管有一點倒退。向前2步，向后1步。

I feel a little less lonely knowing that everyone else is also lonely.

知道別人也是孤獨的，我就不那么孤獨了。
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I am constantly isolating myself at every chance and mostly alone unless I am at work... I wish I could live completely alone except for grocery shopping or buying the necessities and never get in public or even talk to someone. I am aware this sounds edgy and like I am trying to seem cool but in all honesty, books, painting, music is all I need to feel complete.

我總是一有機會就把自己孤立起來，大多數(shù)時候都是一個人，除非我在工作……我希望我可以完全獨自生活，除了去雜貨店購物或買生活必需品，不再進入公共場所，甚至不和別人說話。我知道這聽起來很前衛(wèi)，好像我在努力看起來很酷，但說實話，書籍、繪畫和音樂是我感覺完整所需要的一切。

I am a lawyer and surrounded by people all through the day, may be the reason why. I am even good at teaching, conversation or explaining something, doesn't change the fact that I wish I won lottery and built a house isolating me from anyone and anything.

我是一名律師，整天被人包圍，可能是這個原因，我擅長教學、交談或解釋一些事情，但這并不能改變我希望中了彩票后建一所房子將我與任何人和任何事隔離開來的事實。

I'm very social and all, but yet most of the conversations and relationships are meaningless and unfulfilling. The more I surround myself around others I tend to question myself and my worth. I rather be alone than think I am not as good as the ones around me

我非常喜歡社交，但是大多數(shù)的對話和關(guān)系都沒有意義，也沒有成就感。我自己越是被別人周圍，就越傾向于質(zhì)疑自己和自己的價值。我寧愿一個人呆著，也不愿認為自己不如身邊的人

The feeling of being alone is feeling empty like a void in your chest, the pain of being excluded is the worst,

一個人的感覺是空虛的，就像你胸中的空虛，被排斥的痛苦是最糟糕的，

Right now I just want to talk to someone that's all I want.

現(xiàn)在我只想找個人談?wù)?，這就是我想要的。

If anyone is reading this, here is some advise,(Family is the most important part of your life, don't waste your time on feeling lonely, because you are not alone you have us),I hope this helps for some of you

如果有人正在閱讀這篇文章，這里有一些建議，(家人是你生命中最重要的部分，不要把時間浪費在感到孤獨上，因為你并不孤單，你有我們)，我希望這對你們中的一些人有所幫助

This video was very useful. For the last two weeks I've been feeling weird. I moved to another country 1.5 year ago, and was having some bad crisis and just really missing my relatives and friends. I got my parents, sister and 2 amazing new friends, and although I love these people, I still miss others.

這段視頻非常有用。過去兩周我一直感覺很奇怪。一年半之前我搬到了另一個國家，遇到了一些嚴重的危機，真的很想念我的親戚和朋友。我得到了我的父母，姐姐和2個了不起的新朋友的關(guān)心，雖然我愛這些人，但我仍然想念其他人。

My cure for loneliness is riding a motorcycle. Every other motorcyclist you pass will give you the "wave" and just that simple gesture makes you feel like your part of something. Riding gives you an activity a hobby you can do by yourself or with others but it always frees your soul.

我治療孤獨的方法是騎摩托車。你經(jīng)過的每一個摩托車手都會給你“揮手”，只是那個簡單的手勢就讓你覺得自己是某件事的一部分。騎行給了你一項活動一項愛好，你可以自己或與他人一起做，它總是能解放你的靈魂。

Loneliness is when you’re surrounded by people, but don’t feel connected with them. You have hours of conversation, but still feel empty and unsatisfied. You try to speak up, but they don’t understand.

孤獨是指你周圍都是人，但感覺不到與他們的聯(lián)系。你與他們有幾個小時的談話，但仍然感到空虛和不滿足。你試著大聲疾呼，但他們聽不懂。
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I'm the type of person who likes to cheer everybody up, but when I'm not feeling good nobody seems to care about me and that's what makes me lonely

我是那種喜歡讓每個人振作起來的人，但當我感覺不舒服的時候，似乎沒有人關(guān)心我，這就是讓我孤獨的原因

I spend roughly 85% of my time alone. I almost never feel lonely. I prefer not having to pretend to care about what others are saying or doing. Having others around to worry about just slows me down.

我大約85%的時間都是獨自一人。我?guī)缀鯊牟桓械焦陋?。我更喜歡不必假裝關(guān)心別人在說什么或做什么。有其他人在身邊操心只會讓我放慢腳步。

In a society that is hyper individualistic as it is today, we are lonelier than ever. Social media swept the world under the guise of increasing connection amongst us, but in the end just made us lonelier.

在當今這個高度個人主義的社會，我們比以往任何時候都更加孤獨。社交媒體以增加我們之間的聯(lián)系為幌子席卷了世界，但最終只會讓我們更加孤獨。

Loneliness has never been a problem for me. Being a sole traveller, a merchant seaman most of my life, I enjoy and appreciate the time to sit, think observe and consider. I do not feel empty within. But do understand it can be a problem for many.

孤獨對我來說從來都不是問題。作為一個獨自的旅行者，一個商船船員，我很享受和感激能夠坐下來，思索，觀察和思考的時間。我內(nèi)心并不空虛。但是我明白這對很多人來說都是個問題。

if you focus a bit you can see that the pygmalion effect is mentioned here which is basically:we have a belief about someone that belief effects our actions towards that person so those actions effects their belief about themselves so that effects their actions toward us which comes back full circle to reinforce our belief of that person

如果你稍微注意一下，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)這里提到了皮格馬利翁效應(yīng)，基本上是:我們對某人有一種信念，這種信念會影響我們對那個人的行為，所以這些行為會影響他們對自己的信念，從而影響他們對我們的行為，這種行為會反過來強化我們對那個人的信念

I like how this video not only helps to understand loneline but also identify some common root causes and what we can do about them. Without dismissing the fact that we may really need professional help. And that try as we may sometimes it may not work but we gotta keep trying for it.

我喜歡這個視頻，不僅有助于理解孤獨，還能找出一些常見的根本原因，以及我們可以做些什么。不否認我們可能真的需要專業(yè)幫助的事實。盡管我們可能會嘗試，但有時可能不會成功，但我們必須繼續(xù)努力。

The great thing is that once you learn about your emotions and needs, it becomes so easy to get from feeling of hopelessness and and of the world to happiness and joy full of hope. The mind is truly a powerful thing we humans have.

最棒的是，一旦你了解了自己的情緒和需求，就很容易從絕望和對世界的感覺中獲得充滿希望的幸福和快樂。大腦是我們?nèi)祟悡碛械恼嬲龔姶蟮臇|西。

I have social anxiety and it’s really hard for me to make new friends,or even just talk to strangers and that's why I stay at home most of the time,People often assume that I'm hostile and I don't blame them but in reality I would do anything just to experience the feeling of having friends.

我有社交焦慮，我真的很難交到新朋友，甚至很難和陌生人交談，這就是為什么我大多數(shù)時間呆在家里，人們經(jīng)常認為我是充滿敵意的，我不責怪他們，但事實上，我會做任何事情來體驗有朋友的感覺。

For a lot of people, pets are seen as family and especially dogs are much more obvious in their reactions to seeing their human show up.

對許多人來說，寵物被視為家人，尤其是狗，當看到人類出現(xiàn)時，它們的反應(yīng)要明顯得多。
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I suppose that my loneliness is driven primarily by my stubborn opinion that I am right and no one else is. In addition, my desire to avoid conflict and the generally toxic, intolerant nature of our culture add to my desire to leave alone and be left alone.

我想我的孤獨主要是因為我固執(zhí)地認為我是對的，而其他人都是不對的。此外，我想避免沖突的渴望和我們文化中普遍有毒、不寬容的本質(zhì)，增加了我想獨處和留我獨自一人的愿望。
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Stay strong even if it's easier to tell it to other than to yourself.

保持堅強，即使告訴別人比告訴自己更容易。

Its surprising how millions of people are lonely at same time but cant help each other to become NOT.

令人驚訝的是，數(shù)以百萬計的人同時感到孤獨，卻不能幫助對方變得不孤獨。

Woah, I thought as I was getting older I was developing social anxiety, turns out it’s loneliness. Loneliness that has driven me though all of the things mentioned. I started to feel weird around people. Then felt like they would feel weird because I felt weird and they would get uncomfortable because of it, so I then would try to avoid interaction in order to prevent weirdness between me and others.

哇，我以為隨著年齡的增長，我出現(xiàn)的是社交焦慮，結(jié)果發(fā)現(xiàn)是孤獨。孤獨驅(qū)使我經(jīng)歷了提到的所有事情。我開始覺得和人在一起很奇怪。然后覺得他們會覺得我奇怪，因為我覺得奇怪，他們會因此而不舒服，所以我會盡量避免互動，以防止我和其他人之間的奇怪。

on that topic, the video was right, i take a lot of things more aggresively. i don't trust people's words . i'm slowly having a harder and harder time picking up sarcasm/jokes.

在這個話題上，視頻是正確的，我采取了很多更具攻擊性的行為。我不相信別人的話。慢慢地越來越難接受諷刺或者笑話了。
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I'm lonely because I have boundaries and I'd rather be alone than be with manipulators and fake people who drain my energy

我很孤獨，因為我有界限感，我寧愿一個人呆著，也不愿和那些耗盡我精力的操縱者和虛偽的人在一起

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