我是一個極度缺乏自信的人，我總是關(guān)注別人對我的看法，因為我害怕被評判。我如何提高自信，不再關(guān)心別人的想法，這樣我才能做我自己？
I'm a super extremely unconfident person and I always focus about what others think of me because I''m afraid of getting judged. How do I improve my confidence and stop caring about what others think so I can be myself?
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永遠記住，人們評判別人有很多不同的理由。他們指責(zé)你是因為他們的內(nèi)心。你和你都知道你的內(nèi)心。不要讓世界定義你是什么或你是誰。抬起頭，向那些評判你的人展示你的真實面目。
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I'm a super extremely unconfident person and I always focus about what others think of me because I'm afraid of getting judged. How do I improve my confidence and stop caring about what others think so I can be myself?
我是一個極度缺乏自信的人，我總是關(guān)注別人對我的看法，因為我害怕被評判。我如何提高自信，不再關(guān)心別人的想法，這樣我才能做我自己？
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Try growing up some and then you'll really not give a fuck. And I know that sounds mean to say, to tell someone to grow up but I mean it quite literally. Get some years on you and you'll start to care less and less.
試著成長一些，然后你就真的不在乎了。我知道這聽起來意味著說，告訴某人長大，但我的意思是字面意思。過幾年你就會越來越不在乎了。
Years ago, I'm working at the radiology department in a very big hospital in the DC metropolitan area. We have all sorts of people in that waiting room and one happens to be this old man reading the paper. He's in his own little world. He's got white tube socks rolled up just below his knees. He's all into reading the world news as he leans over to the side to let out an enormous fart. This mother fucker just let one rip right in the waiting room full of people.
這里有一個例子。
幾年前，我在華盛頓特區(qū)一家大醫(yī)院的放射科工作。我們在候診室里有各種各樣的人，其中一個碰巧是正在看報的老人。他在自己的小世界里。他把白色短襪卷在膝蓋下面。他全神貫注地閱讀《世界新聞》，一邊俯身放一個大屁。這個狗娘養(yǎng)的就像是在滿是人的候診室里開了一槍。
It was truly admirable.
So just know that as you get older all that other stuff about caring what people think and how they might perceive you just seems silly. It just won't matter.
他一次也沒有把目光從報紙上移開。真的操蛋。
但這真是令人欽佩。
所以你要知道，隨著年齡的增長，關(guān)心別人的想法和他們對你的看法似乎都很愚蠢。這無關(guān)緊要。
我親愛的朋友，當(dāng)你知道你的生活是正確的時候。這些人不買你的賬，他們對你一無所知。而且他們可能真的不太關(guān)心你，因為他們可能更關(guān)注自己。
I think part of that comes with the age. While you are getting older, you just could care less about what others think of you because there are more important things in life to focus on.
我想這部分是隨著年齡的增長而來的。當(dāng)你漸漸變老的時候，你就不必在意別人對你的看法了，因為生活中還有更重要的事情需要關(guān)注。
Always remember that people have judged others for many different reasons.And what they accuse you of is what they are inside.You and you know what is inside of you.Dont let the world define what or who you are.Keep your head up and show those who would judge you who you really are.
永遠記住，人們評判別人有很多不同的理由。他們指責(zé)你是因為他們的內(nèi)心。你和你都知道你的內(nèi)心。不要讓世界定義你是什么或你是誰。抬起頭，向那些評判你的人展示你的真實面目。
I'm guessing you're quite young, and have yet to find yourself. If we haven't found ourselves yet, of course we're going to worry about what others find from us. Almost everybody goes through this. Some people are good at fronting up, but the insecurity is still there. As you age, the maturity sets in and you start realising two things:
我猜你很年輕，還沒有找到自我。如果我們還沒有發(fā)現(xiàn)自己，我們當(dāng)然會擔(dān)心別人從我們身上發(fā)現(xiàn)了什么。幾乎每個人都經(jīng)歷過這個。有些人很善于站出來，但不安全感仍然存在。隨著年齡的增長，成熟期開始到來，你開始意識到兩件事：
Those that do are generally the people to steer away from. They are usually the most insecure themselves, and deal with their own insecurities by pinpointing yours.
1、大多數(shù)人被他們自己的不安全感所占據(jù)，以至于他們甚至沒有注意到關(guān)于你的細節(jié)。
2、這些人通常是要避開的人。他們自己通常是最不安全的，通過指出你的不安全感來處理他們自己的不安全感。
當(dāng)我年輕的時候，我會被獨自外出的想法嚇呆。笨蛋，嘿。我以為人們會認為我是一個沒有朋友的失敗者。我會獨自環(huán)顧四周的人，認為他們在錯誤地判斷我是一個孤獨的人。然后我意識到我完全沒有去關(guān)注他們，為什么他們會關(guān)注到我呢？然后我開始意識到我在宇宙中的地位，雖然我對自己來說是最重要的人，但公眾中沒有人真正注意或關(guān)心我的存在，他們只擔(dān)心自己的存在。當(dāng)你謙卑地面對現(xiàn)實生活時，生活開始變得輕松一點。
It just takes time and maturity to get to that point.
These days, yeah, I put the bins out in my underpants, and sing while walking my dogs, I make stupid noises and faces in public to make my kids laugh. Nobody cares, and if anyone does, I'll soon be forgotten about within 5 minutes. At worst, I'm the anonymous crazy guy that somebody walked past. That's fine.
別誤會我的意思，如果你光著身子走在街上，那會引起別人的評判。但在你99.9%的生活中，你周圍99.9%的公眾都沒有注意到你。
要明白這一點需要時間和成熟。
這些天，是的，我用內(nèi)褲包著東西丟掉，邊遛狗邊唱歌，我在公共場合發(fā)出愚蠢的聲音和做鬼臉來逗我的孩子們笑。沒人在乎，如果有人在乎，我很快就會在5分鐘內(nèi)被遺忘。最壞的情況是，他們會認為我是一個匿名的瘋子，有人從我身邊走過。那很好。
哦，我最喜歡的就是獨自坐在咖啡館或餐館里，一邊看新聞一邊靜靜地吃著。曾經(jīng)可怕的前景已經(jīng)成為我向往的奢侈品。
“A **super extremely** unconfident” - these two words show that you love yourself very much and your attention is focused on your super extremly totally absolutely **dear **personality. Try to re-focus the inside view from yourself to other people and look how wonderfully they are different, amazingly creative, have sense of humour, have a lot of talents and valuing to look at them with regard.
“一個**極度**不自信”-這兩個詞表明你非常愛自己，你的注意力集中在你的超級極度絕對**親愛的**個性上。試著把自己的內(nèi)心世界重新聚焦到別人身上，看看他們是多么的與眾不同，有著驚人的創(chuàng)造力，有幽默感，有很多天賦，并且很重視他們。
Be YOURSELF!
Nobody can judge you before they get to know you.
BTW, who are WE to judge others?
I stopped caring decades ago.
I am a single man with grandchildren and not dating anyone.
I’m not bad looking and I am who I am.
YOU do not have to impress anyone; again just be your self!
You sound like a fine catch/future wife!
Stop judging yourself!
What a fine question!
Be careful!
做你自己！
在他們了解你之前，沒有人能評判你。
順便說一句，誰有資格來評判別人？
幾十年前我就不再關(guān)心了。
我是一個有孫子孫女的單身漢，沒有和任何人約會。
我長得不錯，我就是我自己。
你不必給任何人留下深刻印象；再一次做你自己！
你聽起來像是一個很有前途的妻子！
別再評判你自己了！
多好的問題?。?br /> 小心！
You have the power to stop that behavior. That's a negative behavioral pattern. Whatever caused that type of thinking has to be addressed and stopped. That's what therapy is for. Your preconceived projected thoughts from other people are made up by you. Just as troublesome is the fact those people's opinions don't matter. Nobodies negative opinion of you matters.
你有能力阻止這種行為。這是一種消極的行為模式。無論是什么原因?qū)е铝诉@種想法，都必須加以解決和制止。這就是治療的目的。你先入為主的來自他人的想法是由你編造的。同樣令人煩惱的是，這些人的意見并不重要。沒有人會在意你的負面看法。
包括父母在內(nèi)。這不是有形的東西。就在他們小小的腦袋里。不要和消極的人在一起。作為一個成年人，你能做出選擇。這位老人穿著拳擊服和黑襪子收到郵件是有原因的。他把自己從思想中解放出來。他不在乎。模仿那個老人的行為甚至他的著裝規(guī)范?！胺攀帧笔且环N能帶來幸福的生存特質(zhì)。
one can examine experience and make sense of it, and so understand people
one can develop abilities that empower one, like considering others, and seeing the big picture
one can obxtify their truths by having them affirmed by good people
= confidence. but nothing is perfect
一個人可以審視經(jīng)驗并理解它，從而理解人們。
一個人可以發(fā)展賦予自己權(quán)力的能力，比如考慮他人，看到全局。
人們可以通過好人的肯定來客觀化他們的真理。
要對自己有信心。但要知道沒有什么是完美的。
You can improve your self-image by going after your passions in life and setting goals.
This will build your self-confidence.
Make good choices.
Best to you!
你可以通過追求生活中的激情和設(shè)定目標來改善自我形象。
這將建立你的自信。
做出正確的選擇。
祝你好運！
Do things that you are proud of. Not things that you think you should be proud of. Not things that other people say you should be proud of. Things you would actually be proud of when your head hits the pillow each night and it's just you.
Become a person you're proud to be and you'll stop caring what other people think of you.
做你引以為傲的事情。不是你認為你應(yīng)該驕傲的事情。不是別人說你應(yīng)該驕傲的事情。每天晚上，當(dāng)你的頭枕在枕頭上時，你會感到自豪的事情，只有你自己。
成為一個你引以為傲的人，你就不會在意別人怎么看你了。
There are always people around who will “judge” you. Some of these will have no actual power over you, while a few others will be more crucial, such as potential employers or potential spouses. Ignore the first and “choose your battles carefully” with regard to the latter two groups.
The problem with “being yourself” is that “yourself” might not always be “acceptable” to the general run of people. That can have bad effects on you.
周圍總有人會“評判”你。其中一些對你沒有實際的影響力，而另外一些則更為重要，比如潛在雇主或潛在配偶。關(guān)注后兩組，忽略第一組，并“謹慎選擇戰(zhàn)斗”。
“做你自己”的問題是，“你自己”可能并不總是被一般人“接受”。那會對你有不良影響。
To be to oneself, one should try loving oneself first. Thank you. All the best. Happy living.
做自己，首先要試著愛自己。非常感謝。祝你一切順利。生活幸福。
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From what i gathered, maybe you are insecure about yourself,We all are insecure of something. Some are very much insecure while others are not. There are many ways to overcome feeling insecurity but each way work different for other. So you do the best for you. In order to stop feeling insecure, first find out the root cause that what is the actual reason that Is making you feel that wat. Then talk with a person who you trust and stop judging yourself. For more ways on how to stop feeling insecure
從我收集的信息來看，也許是因為你對自己的不安全感，我們都對某些事情不安全。有些人非常不安全，而另一些人則不然?？朔话踩械姆椒ㄓ泻芏?，但每種方法的效果不同。所以你為你做的最好。為了停止不安全感，首先找出根本原因，什么是真正的原因，使你感到不安全。然后和一個你信任的人談?wù)?，停止評判自己。