有什么跡象表明你正在放棄自己的生活(一)

Rafael Eliassen
Having the sheep mentality — afraid of not fitting in and never thinking for yourself.
You escape into drugs, alcohol, Netflix
You consume a lot of self-help and are afraid of taking imperfect action.
You don’t have a priority goal — whether it be health, wealth, relationship.
You live in a loop — the same experiences in relationships, habits, career, etc.
You let the day run you without having any agenda.
You try to please everyone you meet to feel good about yourself.
You are waiting for the right time — to change jobs, ask someone out, etc.

有羊的心態(tài)—害怕不合群，從不為自己著想。
你會(huì)沉迷于毒品、酒精和Netflix。
你熱衷于自救，害怕采取不完美的行動(dòng)。
你沒有一個(gè)優(yōu)先的目標(biāo)—不管是健康、財(cái)富還是人際關(guān)系。
你生活在一個(gè)循環(huán)中——在關(guān)系、習(xí)慣、職業(yè)等方面都有同樣的經(jīng)歷。
你沒有任何日程安排，任由時(shí)間流逝。
你試圖取悅你遇到的每一個(gè)人，讓自己感覺良好。
你在等待合適的時(shí)機(jī)—換工作、約某人出去等等。

Gurmeet Bishnoi, studied at Master of Science Degrees

Gurmete Bishnoi，攻讀理學(xué)碩士學(xué)位
原創(chuàng)翻譯：龍騰網(wǎng) http://mintwatchbillionaireclub.com 轉(zhuǎn)載請注明出處

When you can't imagine your life without smartphone.
More smart phone making us studpid.
Letting every distraction to fill the day.
Saying “yes” to every got a minute request.
Spending lot of time doing things which we shouldn't be.
TV, reality shows, Video games.
Often find yourself compalining or making excuses.
Complains about job, boss, family, work etc.
Not taking care of your body.

當(dāng)你無法想象沒有智能手機(jī)的生活時(shí)。
智能手機(jī)讓我們變蠢。
讓一天的時(shí)間被眾多小事所分心。
對每一個(gè)請求都說“好”。
花很多時(shí)間做我們不該做的事情。
電視，真人秀，電子游戲。
經(jīng)常發(fā)現(xiàn)自己在抱怨或找借口。
抱怨工作、老板、家庭、工作等。
沒有照顧好你的身體。

Letting yourself down more often.
Your thoughts “I can't”, “I am not smart” becomes reality with time.
Spending too much time with people who don't empower you.
Find postitive people.
Spending money of things that don't matter.
Preferring “wants” over “need”.
Not stepping out of comfort zone.
Scared from taking risks and adventures.
Clicking selfies, pics, your activities and uploading them everyday.
Rather than showing moments, it's better to live the moment.

經(jīng)常讓自己失望。
隨著時(shí)間的推移，你的想法“我不能”、“我不聰明”變成了現(xiàn)實(shí)。
花太多的時(shí)間和那些不能賦予你力量的人在一起。
尋找積極的人。
把錢花在無關(guān)緊要的事情上。
更喜歡“想要”而不是“需要”。
沒有走出舒適區(qū)。
害怕冒險(xiǎn)和風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。
每天上傳自拍、圖片、行動(dòng)軌跡。
與其展示當(dāng)下，不如活在當(dāng)下。

Lukas Schwekendiek, Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.

盧卡斯·施韋肯迪克，生活教練，演說家，作家。出版于時(shí)代公司和赫芬頓郵報(bào)。

Your life isn’t getting better - Looking back a year ago you realize nothing much has changed. This is the sign of someone settling for the life they have and not using their power to improve. You are throwing your life away if this is not on purpose!
You are spending more time consuming than you are producing - For every hour you study, work or create, you spend four hours watching TV, playing games or reading books.
Your Resolutions stay the same - How often did you say you would work out? Stand up early? Or do more tomorrow than you did today? Why are you still having those same resolutions?
The problems in your life aren’t getting bigger - You are still trying to solve the problem of how to pay the $200 fine on the speeding ticket instead of worrying about how to save your $1,000,000 business from bankruptcy. Which problem would you rather have?
Complaining happens more often than appreciating - You point fingers at other things, embody the negativity you have and complain and complain and complain without lifting a finger, instead of doing something about it and appreciating every time you have lifted your finger to bring forth a change.

你的生活并沒有變得更好—回顧一年前，你意識(shí)到?jīng)]有什么變化。這是一種跡象，表明有人安于現(xiàn)狀，沒有用自己的力量去改善生活。如果這不是故意的，你就是在浪費(fèi)生命！
你所花費(fèi)的時(shí)間比你所創(chuàng)造的要多—你每學(xué)習(xí)、工作或創(chuàng)造一個(gè)小時(shí)，你就要花四個(gè)小時(shí)看電視、玩游戲或讀書。
你的決心保持不變—你多久鍛煉一次?早起?或者明天比今天做得更多?為什么你仍然有那些相同的決心
你生活中的問題并沒有變得更嚴(yán)重—你仍然在努力解決如何支付超速罰單上200美元罰款的問題，而不是擔(dān)心如何挽救你100萬美元的企業(yè)免于破產(chǎn)。你更愿意有哪個(gè)問題？
抱怨比欣賞更常見—你指責(zé)其他事情，表現(xiàn)出你的消極情緒和一味抱怨，而不是做點(diǎn)什么，感激你每次舉起手指帶來改變的時(shí)候。

You have no big aspirations - Your goals include living an okay life, in a nice house with a nice family. You keep from going for big goals to prevent disappointment, acting out of fear rather than desire and inspiration!
Life seems like a drag - You hardly remember yesterday, much less what you did for most of the year. The days seem to go on forever and life just doesn’t seem to get any better.
You have time to spare - At the end of the day you are not falling dead into your bed but instead staying up until 4 in the morning because you didn’t exert yourself at all. You have time to spare and energy as well.
You feel fear over excitement - When you look at a problem, your future, or something troubling you become massively afraid instead of excited over the challenge. A sign that fear broke you into giving up on your life.

你沒有什么遠(yuǎn)大的抱負(fù)—你的目標(biāo)包括過一種好的生活，住漂亮的房子、有一個(gè)溫馨的家庭。你不去追求大目標(biāo)是為了防止失望，行動(dòng)是出于恐懼而不是欲望和靈感！
生活似乎是一個(gè)累贅—你幾乎不記得昨天，更不用說你一年中大部分時(shí)間都做了什么。日子似乎過得沒完沒了，生活似乎一點(diǎn)也沒有好轉(zhuǎn)。
你有空閑的時(shí)間—在一天結(jié)束的時(shí)候，你并沒有昏倒在床上，而是熬夜到凌晨4點(diǎn)，因?yàn)槟阋稽c(diǎn)都沒有努力。你有時(shí)間，也有精力。
你感到恐懼而不是興奮—當(dāng)你展望一個(gè)問題，你的未來，或一些困擾你的事情時(shí)，你會(huì)變得非常害怕，而不是對挑戰(zhàn)感到興奮?？謶质亲屇惴艞壣畹囊粋€(gè)標(biāo)志。

Sean Lana, studied History & German at University of Hamburg

Sean Lana，在漢堡大學(xué)學(xué)習(xí)歷史和德語
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You keep repeating the same mistake, thereafter throwing out your anger, frustration at other people.
Getting married just because of sex.
Taking loan in order to impress people that have bigger assets than you.
You talk a lot but you act less, nothing work for people who refuse to do the work. You should hustle hard in silence and impress people with results.
You believe in gambling and Ponzi schemes are the only way to financial freedom, so you ignore working hard.
You lack patience, persistence but love shortcuts which makes you skip some major steps in life.
You seek excessive validation on social media.
You love entertainment more than learning something new. Victims love entertainment while victors love education.
You are not ready to discomfort yourself first for comfort.

你不斷重復(fù)同樣的錯(cuò)誤，然后向別人發(fā)泄你的憤怒和沮喪。
僅僅因?yàn)樾远Y(jié)婚。
接受貸款是為了給那些資產(chǎn)比你多的人留下深刻印象。
你說得多，做得少，對那些拒絕做這項(xiàng)工作的人來說，什么都不管用。你應(yīng)該在沉默中努力工作，用結(jié)果給人留下深刻印象。
你相信賭博和龐氏騙局是獲得經(jīng)濟(jì)自由的唯一途徑，所以你忽視了努力工作。
你缺乏耐心和不夠堅(jiān)持，但愛是你生命中的捷徑，它讓你跳過了一些重要的步驟。
你在社交媒體上過度尋求認(rèn)可。
比起學(xué)習(xí)新東西，你更喜歡娛樂。受害者喜歡娛樂，勝利者喜歡教育。
你還沒有準(zhǔn)備好先讓自己感到不適來尋求安慰。

Ayodeji Awosika, I'm a published author who focuses on personal development.

Ayodeji Awosika，我是一位出版作家，專注于個(gè)人發(fā)展。

You’re doing anything besides the thing you want to do with your life - Before I dive into the point further, let me preface by saying there’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing what you have to do to take care of your family, especially short and medium-term. But if you never make an attempt to escape the rat race and you spend the vast majority of your time doing things you don’t want to do, you’re throwing at least one major part of your life away. Having control over your time and doing the things you want isn’t everything, but it’s a hell of a lot more than something. Most people won’t admit that, but it’s true. The point isn’t to make people feel bad for being stuck in situations they don’t want to be in. Often, forces outside of your control help shape those situations. But I do encourage people to create ‘escape plans’ because failing to do so means you’re giving up a significant portion of your existence on this earth. And when I say you’re wasting your life by doing things you don’t really want to do, it applies to any scenario. You can be rich doing things you want to do or doing things you hate doing. You can live a modest life doing things you want to do or doing things you hate doing. An accountant can be in alignment with their purpose and a pop-star can be misaligned. It has nothing to do with what you do, but why you do it.

除了你想做的事情之外，你正在做任何事情——在我進(jìn)一步深入討論這一點(diǎn)之前，讓我先說，做你必須做的事情來照顧你的家庭絕對沒有錯(cuò)，特別是短期和中期。但是，如果你從未試圖逃避激烈的競爭，而你把絕大多數(shù)時(shí)間都花在做你不想做的事情上，那么你至少丟掉了你生命中的一大部分?？刂颇愕臅r(shí)間，做你想做的事情并不是一切，但這比什么都重要。大多數(shù)人不會(huì)承認(rèn)這一點(diǎn)，但這是真的。問題的關(guān)鍵不是讓人們因?yàn)橄萑胨麄儾幌胂萑氲木车囟械诫y過。通常，你無法控制的力量有助于塑造這些局面。但我確實(shí)鼓勵(lì)人們制定“逃l離計(jì)劃”，因?yàn)椴贿@樣做意味著你放棄了你你生命中重要的一部分。當(dāng)我說你做你不想做的事情是在浪費(fèi)生命時(shí)，這適用于任何情況。你可以做你想做的事或者做你討厭做的事。你可以過一種保守的生活，做你想做的事或者做你討厭做的事。一個(gè)會(huì)計(jì)可以與他們的目標(biāo)一致，而一個(gè)流行歌星可能與他們的目標(biāo)不一致。這與你做什么無關(guān)，而與你為什么做有關(guān)。

You’re staying in a relationship when you know it isn’t working - This is a tough one. I don’t give relationship advice, per se. I don’t know anyone’s personal situation nor do I feel qualified to tell them what to do with such an intimate issue. Here’s what I do know. Being in a co-dependent relationship where both partners won’t leave due to fear of being alone and starting over will have long-term negative psychological effects. There are a ton of variables to consider, e.g., having children together. But you also have to weigh all the pros and cons, e.g., is it better to stick it out for the kids while knowing your relationship isn’t working or is it better for your kids to not have parents in toxic relationships? Sometimes people cut things short too quickly because we’re in a culture that promotes exiting relationships when things get tough. But then there’s such a thing as too tough where you shouldn’t have to work that hard to be with someone. Again, not giving advice, but if you know deep-down you shouldn’t be with that person, I’d encourage you to think deeply about the implications of staying with that person. I stayed in a relationship far too long and even got married when I knew deep down I shouldn’t have. Sticking things out to see if I could work it out only made leaving more difficult and painful. Ripping the band-aid earlier would have hurt, but it would’ve been much less painful than what inevitably took place. Work and love — those are the two biggest traps people fall into and waste large chunks of time.

當(dāng)你知道這段感情并不成功時(shí)，你還是在維持它—這是一個(gè)棘手的問題。我不會(huì)給你戀愛建議。我不知道任何人的個(gè)人情況，也沒有資格告訴他們?nèi)绾翁幚磉@樣一個(gè)親密的問題。這是我所知道的:處于一種共同依賴的關(guān)系中，由于害怕獨(dú)處和重新開始，雙方都不會(huì)離開，這將產(chǎn)生長期的負(fù)面心理影響。要考慮的變量有很多，比如一起養(yǎng)育孩子。但你也必須權(quán)衡所有的利弊，例如，在知道你們的關(guān)系不順利的情況下，是為孩子堅(jiān)持下去更好呢，還是讓孩子遠(yuǎn)離父母的不良關(guān)系更好呢？有時(shí)候，人們加快事情的發(fā)展進(jìn)程，因?yàn)槲覀兯幍奈幕牵?dāng)事情變得艱難時(shí)，我們會(huì)促進(jìn)彼此之間的關(guān)系。但是有一件事太難了，你不應(yīng)該為了和某人在一起而那么努力。同樣，不要給出建議，但如果你內(nèi)心深處知道你不應(yīng)該和那個(gè)人在一起，我鼓勵(lì)你深入思考和那個(gè)人在一起的含義。我在一段感情中呆得太久了，甚至在我內(nèi)心深處知道我不應(yīng)該結(jié)婚的時(shí)候結(jié)婚了。堅(jiān)持下去看我是否能解決問題只會(huì)讓離開變得更加困難和痛苦。早些時(shí)候撕開創(chuàng)可貼會(huì)造成傷害，但比不可避免的痛苦要小得多。工作和愛情—這是人們陷入并浪費(fèi)大量時(shí)間的兩個(gè)最大陷阱。

You’re spending all of your time on entertainment and distractions - I watch Netflix. I drink alcohol. Sometimes I even do illegal drugs. I waste time. I blow entire days being lazy. I’m not a self-improvement robot, a puritan, or someone who will judge you for enjoying life and having vices. But let’s call a spade a spade. If you’re doing the work a job you hate, go home and watch Netflix nightly 3–4 hours, and drinking all weekend, you’re wasting your life. When you’re engaging in that level of entertainment and distraction, you’re trying to hide from something. You’re coping with something. As soon as you feel you need to do those activities instead of wanting to do them, you’re in the trap. I’ve been in that trap myself. And I escaped by finding something compelling enough that I no longer needed to fill a void. I found writing. For you, it could be a hobby, a side business, a new skill you want to learn, a means to build your knowledge. Again, not because you need to be some self-improvement robot to have a good life, but because a life comprised of hedonism in distraction is a waste. A life of all work and no play is also a waste. You’re smart. You know what I’m getting after. You can do both. Say you get up on a weekend at 8 a.m. You could do something positive and meaningful for a full 8 hours and still enjoy an entire evening after that. You could watch one less hour of Netflix and put it into a beneficial activity. This isn’t rocket science, but we hide and we cope and we distract because we’re so afraid of having to experience our life in full clarity, face our demons, and fully come to grips with the present moment. Many people suffered during the pandemic because they lost some of their outlets and had to spend time thinking about their life. If your life isn’t good without your vices, you’re not living a good life, period.

你把所有的時(shí)間都花在娛樂和消遣上—我看Netflix、我喝酒、有時(shí)我甚至?xí)?。我浪費(fèi)時(shí)間；我整天都在偷懶。我不是一個(gè)能自我提升的機(jī)器人，不是一個(gè)清教徒，也不是一個(gè)會(huì)因?yàn)槟阆硎苌詈蛺毫?xí)而評判你的人。但讓我們直言不諱。如果你做的是你討厭的工作，回家每晚看3-4個(gè)小時(shí)的Netflix，整個(gè)周末都在喝酒，那你就是在浪費(fèi)生命。當(dāng)你在娛樂和消遣的時(shí)候，你在試圖隱藏一些東西、也在應(yīng)付一些事情。一旦你覺得你需要做這些活動(dòng)而不是想做它們，你就陷入了陷阱。我自己也曾陷入過這個(gè)困境。我找到了一些足夠吸引人的東西，讓我不再需要填補(bǔ)空虛。我發(fā)現(xiàn)寫作。對你來說，這可能是一種愛好、一種副業(yè)、一種你想學(xué)習(xí)的新技能，一種積累知識(shí)的方法。再說一遍，不是因?yàn)槟阈枰蔀橐粋€(gè)自我完善的機(jī)器人才能擁有美好的生活，而是因?yàn)橐粋€(gè)由分心的享樂主義組成的生活是一種浪費(fèi)。只工作不玩耍的生活也是一種浪費(fèi)。你很聰明。你知道我想要什么。你兩者都可以。假設(shè)你在周末早上8點(diǎn)起床，你可以在整整8個(gè)小時(shí)內(nèi)做一些積極和有意義的事情，然后仍然可以享受整個(gè)晚上。你可以少看一個(gè)小時(shí)的Netflix，并將這個(gè)時(shí)間投入到有益的活動(dòng)中。這不是復(fù)雜科學(xué)，但我們逃避、應(yīng)付和分散注意力，因?yàn)槲覀兎浅：ε卤仨氁酝耆逦姆绞襟w驗(yàn)我們的生活，面對內(nèi)心的惡魔，充分把握當(dāng)下。許多人在大流行期間遭受痛苦，因?yàn)樗麄兪チ艘恍┵嶅X的途徑，不得不花時(shí)間思考自己的生活。如果沒有惡習(xí)，你的生活就不美好，那么你的生活就不是美好的。

You give too much of your time to people who don’t deserve it Learning to say no is a superpower. We feel this guilt and obligation to freely give away our time and often people don’t deserve it. A line I like to use, “I just can’t make that a priority.” That frx lets both you and the other person know that you’re conscious about what matters in your life. It’s not that certain opportunities aren’t cool or that you wouldn’t like to do them, but you just can’t prioritize everything at once. Most people suffer not because of a lack of time management, but a lack of priority management. When you treat everything equally, nothing truly gets done. When you give your time away freely because you want everyone to like you, fewer people love you. If you look at a ‘wasted’ life, you’ll see a long, long, long, long series of tiny concessions — saying yes to things that don’t matter until it builds this inertia in your life where you’re trapped by all your obligations.

你把太多的時(shí)間花在了那些不值得的人身上—塞內(nèi)卡族（位于紐約西部）有這樣一句名言[插入名言]。學(xué)會(huì)說不是一種超能力。我們會(huì)感到內(nèi)疚和義務(wù)去自由地付出我們的時(shí)間，但通常人們付出的時(shí)間都是不值得付出的。我喜歡用這樣一句話：“我就是不能把它作為優(yōu)先考慮的事情?！边@個(gè)框架讓你和另一個(gè)人都知道你意識(shí)到生活中重要的事情。這并不是說某些機(jī)會(huì)不酷或者你不想去做，而是你不能一下子把每件事都放在首位。大多數(shù)人的痛苦不是因?yàn)槿狈r(shí)間管理，而是因?yàn)槿狈?yōu)先級管理。當(dāng)你平等地對待每件事時(shí)，什么事情也做不成。當(dāng)你因?yàn)橄Ｍ總€(gè)人都喜歡你而自由地抽出時(shí)間時(shí)，愛你的人就更少了。如果你看到一個(gè)“浪費(fèi)”的人生，你會(huì)看到一個(gè)漫長的、漫長的、漫長的、一系列微小的讓步—對那些無關(guān)緊要的事情說“是”，直到它在你的生活中形成慣性，你被所有的義務(wù)所束縛。

You base your actions more on what others think than what you want - If you disagree with this post, you should probably just click away and go about your life, yet some people will comment. Why? Because they don’t mind giving away their time based on someone else’s opinion. If you look at the life of someone who’s wasted time, wasted relationships, wasted their work, wasted energy on distractions, you see the common thread of fear. Fear of not fitting in, fear of social rejection, fear of lowered status in the tribe. You care because your brain is wired to care, but you can fight that wiring. Your parents don’t approve of your career choices? Well, as much as you love them, their opinion doesn’t matter because they’re not living your life. Society doesn’t approve of your choices? Well, I’ll keep in short in saying that ‘society’ is not the friend of individual success by any stretch of the imagination. Your friends and peers are naysayers? They’re naysayers because they can’t do it, not because they don’t think you can do it. Ultimately, when you decide to live your life on your terms and march to the beat of your own drummer you reflect people’s insecurities back onto them. You’re a mirror showing them what they could be but aren’t willing to do the work required to be. The weight of their insecurities is theirs to bear though, not yours. You’re only responsible for yourself, your family, and the people you care about most. And your ability to be your fullest self does impact those relationships. That’s the classic mistake people make — shrinking because they think it’ll help others. Your children don’t want you to shrink and become martyrs for them. They want to see you living boldly, making mistakes, and getting back up anyway. You’ll be able to be more present and caring with the people you love when you meet your own needs first. Society as a whole is better off with you finding your path and being happy . Do what you want to do. Not what society, your friends, your family, or even I want you to do.

你的行動(dòng)更多地基于別人的想法，而不是你想要的—如果你不贊成，你可能應(yīng)該點(diǎn)擊退出，繼續(xù)你的生活，然而有些人會(huì)評論。為什么？因?yàn)樗麄儾唤橐飧鶕?jù)別人的意見浪費(fèi)時(shí)間。如果你看看那些浪費(fèi)時(shí)間、浪費(fèi)關(guān)系、浪費(fèi)工作、浪費(fèi)精力在分心上的人的生活，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)恐懼的共同線索：害怕不適應(yīng)，害怕被社會(huì)排斥，害怕在群體中地位低下。你在乎是因?yàn)槟愕拇竽X天生就在乎，但你可以對抗這種在乎。你父母不贊成你的職業(yè)選擇？好吧，盡管你很愛他們，他們的意見并不重要，因?yàn)樗麄儾粫?huì)過你的生活。社會(huì)不贊成你的選擇？好吧，我直白地說，“社會(huì)”不是任何想象中個(gè)人成功的朋友。你的朋友和同齡人都是反對者？他們之所以反對，是因?yàn)樗麄冏霾坏剑皇且驗(yàn)樗麄冋J(rèn)為你做不到。最終，當(dāng)你決定按照自己的方式生活，按照自己的節(jié)奏前進(jìn)時(shí)，你會(huì)把人們的不安全感反映到他們身上。你是一面鏡子，向他們展示他們可以成為什么樣的人，但他們不愿意做需要做的工作。然而，他們的不安全感是他們自己的負(fù)擔(dān)，而不是你的。你只對自己、家人和你最關(guān)心的人負(fù)責(zé)。而你成為最完整自我的能力確實(shí)會(huì)影響這些關(guān)系。這是人們犯的典型錯(cuò)誤—退縮，因?yàn)樗麄冋J(rèn)為這會(huì)幫助別人。你的孩子不希望你退縮，成為他們的殉道者。他們希望看到你勇敢地生活，犯錯(cuò)誤，無論如何都要重新站起來。當(dāng)你首先滿足自己的需求時(shí)，你將能夠更多關(guān)心你所愛的人。社會(huì)作為一個(gè)整體，如果你能找到自己的道路并感到快樂，那會(huì)更好。做你想做的事，不是做那些社會(huì)，你的朋友，你的家人，甚至我想要你做的。

Arella Hsiao, Talk psychology to me.

小阿蕾拉，跟我談?wù)勑睦韺W(xué)。

Rumination - the act of overthinking or over-obsessing a negative event such as life, work, relationship and so on.
Solution - Positive Distraction (socialize with friend, gym, hang with friends.
Inability to set tangible goals - No goal means no motivation. No motivation means no drive. No drive means staying the same while everyone is moving forward.
Solution - Think of 3 long term goals and 3 short term goals, then work on the steps to achieving that.
Drug/Substance abuse - Constant abuse of drugs and substances is incredibly unhealthy both physically and mentally.
Solution - Research shows that you are more likely to overcome addiction if it’s intrinsic (I can do it) than extrinsic (some organization workshop)
Not willing to step out of your comfort zone - Countless opportunities awaits for those that are willing to step out. It can be frightening and it can be uncomfortable. But do you really want to stay the “same” 5 years down or improve yourself and take those risks?
Solution - Do something that you don’t typically do weekly. Challenge yourself.
Self-handicapping - cognitive strategy by which people avoid effort in the hopes of keeping potential failure from hurting self-esteem.
Solution - Go for mastery. Learn for your own personal benefits rather for the satisfaction of others.
Social Media Addiction - Do you honestly need to know what your “friends” are doing 24/7? People tend to only post their best while never showing their worst. This offers an unrealistic expectation of life when you compare it to your own.
Solution - There are recent research showing the depression is lixed to social media addiction. Just dexe those apps. It’s a couple clicks away.

沉思—過度思考或過分沉迷于消極事件的行為，如生活、工作、關(guān)系等。
解決方案—積極分散注意力（與朋友進(jìn)行社交、健身、與朋友閑逛）。
無法設(shè)定切實(shí)的目標(biāo)—沒有目標(biāo)意味著沒有積極性。沒有積極性意味著沒有動(dòng)力。沒有動(dòng)力意味著在每個(gè)人都在前進(jìn)的時(shí)候保持不變。
解決方案—考慮3個(gè)長期目標(biāo)和3個(gè)短期目標(biāo)，然后制定實(shí)現(xiàn)這些目標(biāo)的步驟。
藥物/物質(zhì)濫用—持續(xù)濫用藥物和物質(zhì)對身體和精神都極不健康。
解決方案—研究表明，如果上癮是內(nèi)在的（我能做到），你更有可能克服上癮，而不是外在的（一些組織研討會(huì)）
不愿意走出你的舒適區(qū)—無數(shù)的機(jī)會(huì)等待著那些愿意走出的人。這可能是可怕的，也可能是不舒服的。但你真的想保持5年“不變”，還是提高自己—冒這些風(fēng)險(xiǎn)？
解決方案—做一些你通常每周都不會(huì)做的事情，挑戰(zhàn)自己。
自我設(shè)限—認(rèn)知策略，通過這種策略，人們避免做出努力，希望避免潛在的失敗而傷害到自尊。
解決方案—努力掌握：學(xué)習(xí)是為了自己的利益，而不是為了讓他人滿意。
社交媒體成癮—你真的需要知道你的“朋友”全天候在做什么嗎？人們傾向于只發(fā)布他們最好的一面，而從不展示他們最差的一面。當(dāng)你將其與自己的相比時(shí)，這提供了一個(gè)不切實(shí)際的生活期望。
解決方案—最近有研究表明抑郁癥與社交媒體成癮有關(guān)。只需刪除這些應(yīng)用程序，只需點(diǎn)擊幾下即可。